Why white men love the black woman
Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?
It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.
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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.
However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.
So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?
Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.
Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.
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dannyco56 says:Posted: 29 May 10
@petitechick, Keep sharing knowledge, you are so right on! God Bless! Danny
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 29 May 10
Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 29 May 2010: Dear Petite You are kind of one sided but you are a woman. You are giving your point of view. I might be one sided because I firmly believe the woman is the problem, Men want to see their kids. But some women make it very difficult. Most of time it issues not even related to the child that causes the conflict over visitation and etc. Stop worrying about your baby daddy’s personal life. ---------------------------------------------- Well, let's see as indicated previously I don't have that problem. My opinion is not one sided it is fair and accurate. It places blame on both parties where it belongs. ----------------------------------- So, why don't you just see it for what it is instead of trying to pick a fight like you always do. You're a bit too contentious but yet have the nerve to tell me I am. Teehee. Or is this your boyish and childlike behavior showing again? Methinks so. Methinks you want me to say something awfully horrible so you can relish in it. Nah, no need to when you can just tell the dayummmed troooove!
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Bamabelle2k9 says:Posted: 29 May 10
I have a good question to ask. You go out with this person, you really like them but just when it's about time to do the do, they tell you they are celibate or not that into sex, would you stay with that person? Think it about it. You dig them, they dig you, you think this could really be going somewhere and then they drop that bomb on you, what would you do?
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 29 May 10
@ Friendly Yes, as painful as loving someone who stops loving you or if you lose them because they die or something it is still better to have loved. If we could be happy with that when the relationship ends that would make things a lot easier for those of us who have had a bad loss. ------------------------------------------------ Petite says: Friendly this is sooo true. Often when the love is lost as a result of discord then it is all the harder. But keep in mind that time heals the wounds. And one day you wake up and realize that hey, I made it through. Then the unfortunate ones, who never seem to get over the loss of a love either way. Life, Love and matters of the heart don't come with manuals. But love is that one thing many of us keep going back for. Even after having been hurt on more than one occasion. We go back because there's nothing better. We take our chances at it again and again and hope for the best. --------------------------------------------------- Some losses are mutual and both parties say, hey it really is time to end this lets move on,nice knowing you. Sometimes that happens. Especially in longterm relationships. ------------------------------------------------------ Petite: Yes, when people grow apart and they each recognize that what brought them together in the first place is no longer enough to sustain the relationship. People do in fact grow apart. For various reasons which are identifiable and some not so. --------------------------------------------------- I have been in love before, oh a couple of times. The last relationship I loved him but more loosely because I was determined not to ever feel the hurt I felt from one of my breakups. Girl I lost 30 damn pounds. But then I started looking good. Didn’t even realize it. My friends had to make sure I ate. I felt like someone had died. In fact I even wanted to die. But I loved my kids far more than that man. Thank God. --------------------------------------------- Petite: There is a saying that "God never gives you more than you can bare." Now I don't necessarily agree with that to a great degree but it does apply to those he's not ready to let go of yet. He didn't give YOU more than you could bare at the time. --------------------------------------------------- Re: childsupport and visitation, I am with you 100 percent on that. Can’t stand a mother who refuses to tell her kids who their daddy is. My ex-husbands mother (God rest her soul) did that. I mean if the woman doesn’t know she should just say baby I don’t know. If the man was married, she should still tell the child and explain the situation. I think that parents play God when they do this to children and I hate that. --------------------------------------------- Petite: I agree sis. I see this mess all the time. The women even think they are doing some tricky dick type stuff too. Little do they know they hurt their own little ones they proclaim to love. How can a mother love her children and do such a thing? I mean really? I do expect that men who have the means to pay their child support should do so as ordered by the court. But sometimes a man can fall on a hard time...anyone can. That is no reason for the woman to keep the child/children away from the father. It is callous and selfish in my opinion and the only thing I ever agreed with Michael Baisden on.
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friendly13 says:Posted: 29 May 10@ Laurelton Queens Well, actually I am somewhat leary about a man who has kids and who is not with the mother. Most of the time it is because he dogged her out. Sometimes he finds out that she is a two timer or has some horrible addiction. But if that is true then he would have the kids. But most men don't want the kids on a full-time basis because it interferres with their dating life. They would rather the mother have them so they can sit back and criticize her for various reasons. My youngest sons father jumped and married this other girl (white) who had a baby 2 months younger than ours. Then he thought that he was going to still keep me on the side. he would send me notes with my checks. So I did what PetiteChick said, I took his ass to court! He wanted to try to accuse me of a bunch of stuff prior to the court date so that he could get my son. Didn't work though. I don't pay his ass no attention at all. If he wants his son he can get him but he ain't getting none of me. But he don't get him because he runs around so much. He tells everyone it is because of me, but I already know. I kept all of the notes. All I wanted him to do was what he said. I was not going to prostitue myself for him to do what he was supposed to do. We had the affidavite where he swore that he would. I gave him the opportunity to do it on his own and he tried to take advantage. I know that one day when my son is older they will meet up. Right now my sons situation is so critical that he is best with me. He has to be watched constantly. I know that he is not down for all of that.
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Member says:Posted: 29 May 10
Dear Petite You are kind of one sided but you are a woman. You are giving your point of view. I might be one sided because I firmly believe the woman is the problem, Men want to see their kids. But some women make it very difficult. Most of time it issues not even related to the child that causes the conflict over visitation and etc. Stop worrying about your baby daddy's personal life.
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 29 May 10
@Laurelton Friendly13 said: "Laurelton I bet you lose a lot of sleep at night because you cannot control what your baby’s mama does and who she sees. That is why you are blowing a lot of hot air about dating women and men with children. Since you don’t have your kids at home, what are you hollering about? You evidentally got it made in the shade. Find you a woman with no kids and shut up." Petite says: Me didn't know dem had dis problem. I don't, however.
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friendly13 says:Posted: 29 May 10
@ PetiteChick Yes, as painful as loving someone who stops loving you or if you lose them because they die or something it is still better to have loved. If we could be happy with that when the relationship ends that would make things a lot easier for those of us who have had a bad loss. Some losses are mutual and both parties say, hey it really is time to end this lets move on,nice knowing you. Sometimes that happens. Especially in longterm relationships. I have been in love before, oh a couple of times. The last relationship I loved him but more loosely because I was determined not to ever feel the hurt I felt from one of my breakups. Girl I lost 30 damn pounds. But then I started looking good. Didn't even realize it. My friends had to make sure I ate. I felt like someone had died. In fact I even wanted to die. But I loved my kids far more than that man. Thank God. Re: childsupport and visitation, I am with you 100 percent on that. Can't stand a mother who refuses to tell her kids who their daddy is. My ex-husbands mother (God rest her soul) did that. I mean if the woman doesn't know she should just say baby I don't know. If the man was married, she should still tell the child and explain the situation. I think that parents play God when they do this to children and I hate that.
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 29 May 10
@Laurelton Petite said: "If mother harasses baby daddy (I watch too much Maury) teehee, take her ass to court and sue her." and she also said: However, men are just as equally responsible for the well being of their children. DO YOU KNOW WHAT KEY WORDS TO LOOK FOR IN SENTENCES? EQUALLY is the on that applies here. How dare you accuse me of blaming men only!!!!!!!! Pfff.....
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 29 May 10
@Laurelton My rebuttal to Petite. Again, you don’t know the circumstances on why he does not see his child. I doubt men say “Hey I never see my kid, nor do I have the desire too”. *petite says* OF COURSE NOT! But many circumstances can be fixed. Many of them. Many don't bother trying to fix "these circumstances." They just don't give a flyn' crap! You don’t know if he does all he can to see his kid. *petite says* That's why I stated that if he is having trouble with the baby mama there is redress. If mother withholds kid for silly shyt then take her ass to court. Demand to be heard and let the judge decide. Now this can be done even when the mother takes the child out of the state. There are laws in these United States that do in fact help fathers. Use them! I know a lot of guys that say their baby mother plays games with the kid. Women are more vindictive when it comes to using the kids as pawn. *petite says* I agree and I stated as much. Michael Baisden used to Blast women for doing this and I agree. I think I've even said as much on HERE in the past. It's leverage the woman is using. Pitting the kid in the middle. This is DISGRACEFUL. And the father should take her ass to court and seek redress. We live in democracy in the United States. Use the powers of the court to at least say you made an attempt. Many fathers don't bother because the "assume" that the courts will be against them. That's not true. I have stumbled upon a lot of men who are raising their children alone. Just because a woman is a mother doesn't mean she's fit to be a mother. Slow your roll boo...... You said this…….. “I believe women can raise children in good order w/o fathers because it has been proven to be the case. But why deprive a child of his/her father for the mistakes they both made? Particularly with male children.” Actually, it is better to have a father in the home despite his flaws. I read a study about it. Just having the presence of man can alter a child’s life, especially if the child is boy. The problem is black women believe that nonsense about doing “bad all by myself”. *petite says* That's a load horse dung. Boys need their fathers wherever possible. However, in absence of the father for whatever reasons, mothers who have other support systems like extended family members which include male figures can help. I don't believe in that do bad all by myself ish when it comes to children. Own up, take care of your bizness. I dislike the fact you put all the blame on fathers. *Petie says* You can dislike what you want but no where did I put all the blame on the fathers. You need to read it again. I said if the woman is using her child as leverage and acting a fool cause the man won't pay child support TAKE HER ASS TO COURT. She has to “woman up” and stop worrying about the next woman her baby daddy is with. Again, you don’t know the circumstances of his situation. That is why you should stay in your lane when it comes to dates and stop judging his situation. Obviously, you wouldn’t be dating if past relationships went well FOR YOU. You got some nerve! *petite says* I sure do......and what does past relationships going well for me have anything to do with the children? I don't have this issue, but I do know women who do this. I see it all the time. It's wrong, so hell yeah, I got some nerve don't I? I'm keeping it too.
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Member says:Posted: 29 May 10
Dear Bama If she was bad enough would I pay for the babysitter. UM, it depends I guess. I have had women complain indirectly that men should pay the babysitter fees to go out with them. I just think it is tacky and classless. You can't pay for a babysitter for your kid. It makes me think of the woman differently. I agree with the blockbuster night thing and etc. Perhaps a comedy club. My rebuttal to Petite. Again, you don't know the circumstances on why he does not see his child. I doubt men say "Hey I never see my kid, nor do I have the desire too". You don't know if he does all he can to see his kid. I know a lot of guys that say their baby mother plays games with the kid. Women are more vindictive when it comes to using the kids as pawn. You said this........ "I believe women can raise children in good order w/o fathers because it has been proven to be the case. But why deprive a child of his/her father for the mistakes they both made? Particularly with male children." Actually, it is better to have a father in the home despite his flaws. I read a study about it. Just having the presence of man can alter a child's life, especially if the child is boy. The problem is black women believe that nonsense about doing "bad all by myself". I dislike the fact you put all the blame on fathers. She has to "woman up" and stop worrying about the next woman her baby daddy is with. Again, you don't know the circumstances of his situation. That is why you should stay in your lane when it comes to dates and stop judging his situation. Obviously, you wouldn't be dating if past relationships went well FOR YOU. You got some nerve!
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Bamabelle2k9 says:Posted: 29 May 10
I stand by what I said. I'd date a guy with kids hell i've dated a guy with kids. But I'll be honest with you, it's easier when they aren't a parent 24/7. Most women don't have that luxury. I think it's easier for women to date men with kids then men to date women with children. Broke to me is not having enough money to take you somewhere nice. KFC and the Sizzler isn't somewhere nice to me lol But staying at home, catching a movie while ole boy fixes a pot of spaghetti and meatballs is TOTALLY romantic and doesn't break the bank. And she can bring the wine or fix some kind of dessert. And about the babysitting fees, I bet if you want her bad enough your behind with come up with that other 10 dollars she needs to find that sitter. lol NAH :P@Queenie now say you won't lol
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 29 May 10
@MzBrown Ummm, where my duckets? Teeheeheee
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 29 May 10
CORRECTION @ Laurelton on baby daddies If said man does not want to visit with his children, send child support (I feel differently on this matter) then he can take her ass to court to get the visitation rights he deserves. He does not have to deal with her. INSTEAD: If said man DOES WANT TO VISIT WITH his children,
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 29 May 10
@Laurelton I really don't know if I want to address you after that God awful picture, which I deleted and blocked poste haste, but that's another story: To your point on this (for which I have strong feelings on): "I think it is double standard when women say they will not date a man that allegedly does not want to take care of his kids. You don’t know the circumstances of his relationship with the baby mother." ------------------------------------------------- There is no excuse, none whatsoever in my opinion for a man not to take care of his children. Despite the fact that he laid with said woman and helped to conceive those children. The children didn't ask to come into the world. Despite the fact that the baby daddy hates the mama "now." Well that happens. Too much as a matter of fact. However, men are just as equally responsible for the well being of their children. If said man does not want to visit with his children, send child support (I feel differently on this matter) then he can take her ass to court to get the visitation rights he deserves. He does not have to deal with her. There is redress in this country ....still. If a man makes a concerted effort and tells the judge your honor, she won't let me part of my children's life - I can't imagine any judge not wanting to give him his due for being a stand up guy in that regard. If mother harasses baby daddy (I watch too much Maury) teehee, take her ass to court and sue her. What I find most despicable however, is the fact that women will keep their children from the father if he does not at that time have a means to pay child support. Children need their parents. Children need their parents. Children need their parents. I don't know how many times or ways to say it, but they do. To pit the child in the middle of contentious feuds with mother and father over things that have nothing to do with the child is shameful. Disgraceful and will only more likely result in unbalanced child who will need formalized structure as he grows older. Children perform better in school when both parents are caring for them and not bickering about this or that. They are much more well adjusted. I believe women can raise children in good order w/o fathers because it has been proven to be the case. But why deprive a child of his/her father for the mistakes they both made? Particularly with male children. The father's circumstances? Too bad! Suck it up. He has to man up and take care of his responsibilities. Did I say children need their parents?
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 29 May 10
@Dannyco56 Thanks I think honesty is best. AND YEPPER, THERE'S NO BETTER FEELING THAN LOVE! The only thing that has ever come close to it is chocolate! Teeheee Peace
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Member says:Posted: 29 May 10
Dear Friendly I have no kids. I wouldn't want to control a woman. I got nothing against women with kids. However, they make dating difficult. We have to adjust to your schedule and etc. I think it is double standard when women say they will not date a man that allegedly does not want to take care of his kids. You don't know the circumstances of his relationship with the baby mother. I can't recall men saying to a woman. Guess what, I don't take care of my kids. PICK YOU UP AT 8 PM.
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 29 May 10
@friendly That bitter sweet love is better than a bitter cold relationship that ended in sheer hatred. There is always a part that thinks it would go back if there was the slightest chance, but in reality it may be for the best to just move on. Sometimes out hearts and our minds conflict in what we should be doing and what we wish we could do. --------------------------------------------------- I can relate. But the way I look at is like this: It is better to have loved and lost to have never known love at all. There are some people who will never ever find what THEY WILL describe as love. Many of us never find it at all. That's the sad truth. If I never fall in love again (hopefully I do) I will die knowing what it felt like, having experienced it twice in my lifetime. To me, that's a good thing cause some folx never even get that much!
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Member says:Posted: 29 May 10
I don't date outside of my race. That is why I feel, I don't need a picture. Plus my blog reveals who I am anyway.
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friendly13 says:Posted: 29 May 10
Laurelton your profile picture is hillarious. I wouldn't flirt with that dude if my life depended on it. You need to change it to a tall handsome man with big muscular arms to get my attention. What you don't think enough of yourself to put your own picture on there. what surely it must be better than that one. Wouldn't take much.
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friendly13 says:Posted: 29 May 10
@ Queenie Reality check, if two people care for one another his kids are her kids and her kids are his. Without that mentality it will simply not work. There are plenty of single men with kids just like there are women with them. I do not date a man because he can spend money on me. I date him because I care about him. I would not even date a man who did not take care of his kids first. If I dated a man with many obligations (that he was indeed keeping track of) then I would understand that. We can do things in a family setting. I prefer not to date men who cannot relate to having children and the responsibilities that come along with it. Laurelton I bet you lose a lot of sleep at night because you cannot control what your baby's mama does and who she sees. That is why you are blowing a lot of hot air about dating women and men with children. Since you don't have your kids at home, what are you hollering about? You evidentally got it made in the shade. Find you a woman with no kids and shut up.
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Member says:Posted: 29 May 10
LOL FRIENDLY HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA JUST A FIGURE OF SPEECH. LOL
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friendly13 says:Posted: 29 May 10
@ Queenie I pay the sitter because then I don't owe anyone anything. Of course men like you will pay the sitter bill so they don't have to hold the headboard. lol
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Member says:Posted: 29 May 10
Hold up I resent that statement that I got a 1 track mind. Let me address the comments by Bama "First of all men and women both talk about their ex’s. Personally I’d like to know what I’m dealing with and who broke up with whom. If he makes out to you ladies that it was ALL her fault, then he is the one who f-uped." Men treat every woman different. What relevance my last relationship has on you? Women never blame themselves for relationships fucking up. I am just telling you I don't want to hear your sad stories about your ex or baby daddy. It just brings negativity to the date. You said this "The job thing is important because I don’t want to go out with a broke ass man. Where he takes you determines how much he makes. If he takes you to the Sizzler or KFC then you know he aint making much. If you can’t afford to take the woman somewhere nice, do a pinic,cook the meal yourself (which personally is a lot nicer and more romantic then a fancy resturant,) have a Blockbuster night. Trust me, you get points when you get creative." You don't want to go out with a broke man. Broke men can't afford to take women out. It is an oxymoron. If he takes you to KFC and Sizzler, you know he is not making much. Last time I checked, Men don't work just to give you money. You mentioned taking her to a picnic. That sounds like a good idea. I personally like restaurants. However, her grilling me about my job or career. That is annoying. You said this "Be honest about your kids, but make sure you ask about his kids too. Again personally, if a dude has a bunch of kids he has to take care of, even if he has a good job he won’t have the time,money or energy more then likely to spend with you. And no don’t introduce you kids to him right away unless it’s serious." Nappy headed black women always pull this shit. You want a man to accept you with your kids. But god forbid a man has too many kids of his own. You will not date him. A serious double standard. You said this "If he wants you to go out with him bad enough, then let him split the babysitting cost or let him pay it out right. Men if you ever want to know what we like, ask us." SPLIT THE BABYSITTING COST??????????OR PAY FOR THE BABYSITTER. LAST TIME I CHECKED THOSE ARE NOT MY KIDS!!!!!!!! HAVE THE BABY FATHER TAKE THE KIDS OR BABY SIT THEM. THEN, MAYBE YOU CAN COME OUT AND PLAY! THE AUDACITY OF THESE SELLOUT BLACK WOMEN!
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Bamabelle2k9 says:Posted: 29 May 10
Keep in mind@Queenie that this is a brotha who just said he was looking forward to going to God's waiting room (Florida) because he hasn't seen a black ass in awhile, so be mindful of the source gentleman. lol Here is my rebuttal to Queenie First of all men and women both talk about their ex's. Personally I'd like to know what I'm dealing with and who broke up with whom. If he makes out to you ladies that it was ALL her fault, then he is the one who f-uped. The job thing is important because I don't want to go out with a broke ass man. Where he takes you determines how much he makes. If he takes you to the Sizzler or KFC then you know he aint making much. If you can't afford to take the woman somewhere nice, do a pinic,cook the meal yourself (which personally is a lot nicer and more romantic then a fancy resturant,) have a Blockbuster night. Trust me, you get points when you get creative. Be honest about your kids, but make sure you ask about his kids too. Again personally, if a dude has a bunch of kids he has to take care of, even if he has a good job he won't have the time,money or energy more then likely to spend with you. And no don't introduce you kids to him right away unless it's serious. IF he is is seeing more then one woman, make sure he understands you are going to see other men as well. If his ego is bruised by that, then he needs to limit his choices and you'll do the same. If he wants you to go out with him bad enough, then let him split the babysitting cost or let him pay it out right. Men if you ever want to know what we like, ask us.
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dannyco56 says:Posted: 29 May 10
Have to run will be back later. God Bless! Danny
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dannyco56 says:Posted: 29 May 10
Good Morning @petitechick Good advice to MzBrOwNSuGaR. Also your response to chessnut was great. Love is a beautiful thing. God Bless! Danny
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dannyco56 says:Posted: 29 May 10
LMAO@Laurelton You could call this one How to make sure you never get another date with a women. God Bless! Danny
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Member says:Posted: 29 May 10
Thank you DR Danny Phil You are giving out poor advice once again. Listen, these sellout black women need a class on understanding men. I am sick of them ruining relationships. They think their vagina and breasts are the solution to problems. Next time you go on a date, these are the top things that black women should limit themselves talking about. 1. Your ex boyfriend, we don't want to hear that shit. I could care less if he smacked your face. You might have deserved it. 2. Stop asking us about our job like it is a job interview. Just know, if I picked you up in a car, we ain't broke. 3. If you got kids that is fine, but meeting your kids right away a big no no. Because we don't know if we will cut you loose for being sexually boring in bed. Plus, you make us feel guilty sticking around because your kids like us. Plus, we hate waiting around for the kids to go to bed so we can "spank you". You have to hold the headboard when we are on top of you to limit the noise. 4. Don't ask us if we are seeing "other women". We had a life before we met you. We wasn't just waiting around for your ass. If you are good enough we will cut loose the "other women' YA DIG. 5. Lastly, don't say you need a babysitter for your kids for us to go out. It is tacky and a turn off. Just hire the baby sitter and go out. We don't need to know the pre plans. NEW ALBUM I AM SOMEBODY YOU SHOULD KNOW. The Regina King story was released already for my fans that really wanted me to talk about it. I plan to expand on this subject more on the new Album. (Watching the Ciara video Ride) Damn, I think I need to visit Atlanta again. Obviously, not to "wife" those superficial gold diggers in Atlanta but just to spank them. I am falling back into my old ways. (Putting my drink down) I am out.
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dannyco56 says:Posted: 29 May 10
@ MzBrOwNSuGaR From your post you do not sound sure if your current re;ationship is over. Just my opinion if you are not sure then you should make every effort to determine for yourself if it is or is not. Otherwise you will always question and when or if you have a disagreement with your next you will always wonder if you should have stayed in the previous relationship. Also just my opinion you should not jump right right into another relationship. Go slow and give yourself some time. If it is love with the new relationship then it will work out. I wish you the best and all the love you can find in the one that you choose. God Bless! Danny
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friendly13 says:Posted: 29 May 10
@ PetiteChick Yes, that is good relationship advice. I wonder if I really loved my ex-boyfriend or if I just think that I do. There were so many reasons why the relationship was a serious no. The No's far outweighted the reasons why I should. All my friends and family hated him, except my boys loved him. He never did anything to harm them. If they were doing something inappropriate he would just say in a manly tone stop that or get down from there and they would always listen. They never gave him any problems and he never did them either. He was also a single parent like I was and our kids loved being together. We would all watch movies and eat pizza or I would cook something. We would go to the park and the kids would play. I guess that is the part of me that knows it will be difficult to find someone who will fit in with my situation as a single parent. I am so picky.
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friendly13 says:Posted: 29 May 10
Hello everybody It's back to the grinding stone this morning. I will check back with ya'll later on.
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friendly13 says:Posted: 29 May 10
@ MzBrOwNSuGaR I can feel you on the love thing. I have a relationship that I had to end because it was bad for me and posed no positive outlook for my boys. I still love him, but I had to let him go. I love that song that Dolly Parton wrote "I will always love you" That bitter sweet love is better than a bitter cold relationship that ended in sheer hatred. There is always a part that thinks it would go back if there was the slightest chance, but in reality it may be for the best to just move on. Sometimes out hearts and our minds conflict in what we should be doing and what we wish we could do. Yes, the relationship that I am talking about was a blackman too. I think the hardest thing for me with that relationship is that I lost a friend that I enjoyed talking to and having someone to do something with everyday (reading Laurelton Queens mind right now... you have a one track mind. Don't even go there because I am not talking about sex).
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 29 May 10
Hi Chessnut52 Love is a beautiful thang. A beautiful thang. Hang in there, right? Welcome and thanks for sharing your positive love story. Ahhhhhhhhhhh - THERE IS NOTHING BETTER THAN LOVE! credit to the Late Luther Vandross and the Late Gregory Hines..
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 29 May 10
G'morning MzBrownSugar dahling. There is no right or wrong answer to this in my opinion. Some people get into relationships on the rebound having not been fully over the prior relationship. What I find happens (everyone will have a differing opinion) is that what you actually miss about the former relationship can simply be described as a state of melancholy. Not love. You miss love for the sake of love and not that PERSON. I think if you feel you are completely over the former, and the break up is not that new but has taken some place time ago, why not? If you are not completely over him (depending on the nature of your relationship) I would say give yourself more time. Because of the fact that you "miss" love and may not give the other gentleman the attention he deserves. But that's my opinion and mine alone. Some use rebound relationships to get overs. So long as they know and can accept your position (e.g., letting them know you just got out of a serious relationship) then let him/her decide what possible ramifications can come from that. In this way it ain't no secret to him. If he still chooses you then you're good to go. I do hope you are going to be ok in whatever relationship you seek. Please don't take what I'm saying as gospel. People need different things at different times in their lives. Just be honest! Love ya! But um, you make your check payable to.....PetiteChick for the sum $100 Hundred Dollars-00/100 and mail to.......(teeheee) I also accept credit card payments, Master Card Visa, American Express (don't leave home with out). LOL. *smooches*
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MzBrOwNSuGaR says:Posted: 29 May 10
I am getting to know someone. I like him. He says he like me. Things are progressing. But, I still love my baby. :0( I think thats over though. Is it ever good to get over one by moving on to another? Or, should ya be completely over the other one first? What ya'll think? And before you start Queens, they are both black.. lol!!
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 29 May 10
@friendly, Rock on with your bad self. I love music. My Zune is always pumping at the computer - even when I was studying. Pink, Ryan Leslie (my baby daddy), Maxwell, Chrisette Michelle stay on rotate, LOL. I switch it up to some time to some old school like Earth Wind and Fire, The Spinners, O'Jays or something too. Oh, and my all time favorite female singer ever in the world whose albums I have (all except French) The lovely Celine Dion!
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 29 May 10
@friendly I guess I can't say good nite, as a new day has arrived, but I can say good morning, so that you can see that first thing upon visiting today. Also you are very welcome about the 100 Black women link. I looked and looked and I can't find a way to join. I think they want new chapters as opposed to new members of chapters. I will have to call their national headquarters Tuesday to confirm. Yes, that something that a person has. Only an individual will know it when we see it or come upon it! G'morning to my other sistahs, stay Blessed!
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friendly13 says:Posted: 29 May 10
@ PetiteChick, Godiva, BrOwNSuGaR,Bigeyes,tatted2death,Bamababe2k9 and all the sistas on here @ Dannyco56, Ichibod,(and everyone worth addressing) I am about to multi-task: Do some homework, and clean while listening to some youthful R&B music, and a little rock and country thrown in on my playlist. I will check-in again tomorrow. Bye for now.
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friendly13 says:Posted: 29 May 10
@ PetiteChick Oh, I forgot to say thank you for sharing about the information you shared regarding the National Coalition of 100 black women.
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friendly13 says:Posted: 29 May 10
@ PetiteChick I checked out the cite you recommended about The National Coalition of 100 Black Women. I like that organization and will be looking into supporting it and perhaps even becoming a part of it. I think she is right about black women needing the be a political voice and supporting black women who run for office. When we are in power we can get things done.
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friendly13 says:Posted: 29 May 10
@ PetiteChick I like how you describe sexiness...."Not necessarily a look, but that “something” that a person exudes," Whoah,that's powerful! Then you said"... which is in the eye of the beholder anyway. We all have different views of what “sexy” is." That is so true.
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Member says:Posted: 29 May 10
I have lurked long enough. I have hesitated to respond to anything on this thread because of the constant flames I see. However, I must say that I have found true love on this site. I am currently dating a beautiful Jamaican women that I met on this site. I am ready to marry her - she is a bit more cautious, but someday I believe she will come around.
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 29 May 10
For those interested: Dr. Cornel West will be on Bill Maher/HBO tonite!
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 28 May 10
@friendly, I hear ya. I've been sitting around waiting on the Fedex guy.... I hate that. I feel stranded in my home when I have to wait for folx! I wanted to tell the ladies about an organization that is powerful for Black women. The National Coalition of 100 Black Women. It is the sister organization to 100 Black Men. They are doing some wonderful things. Check out their site: http://www.nc100bw.org/ They've been around a very very long time, I'm not sure what membership entails, as I am looking into it. Typically it was for accomplished Black women who have made considerable contributions in their communities. I recall Jewell Jackson McCabe heading up the National Chapter years ago. Something worth passing on I thought. (hugs)
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 28 May 10
@Dannyco56! Hey.... Ms. Monique just recently won an Academy Award for her portrayal in the film "Precious." She is also a stand up comedienne with her own talk show on TVONE network. She's done some films but she has come into her own with her impressive acting skills of late.
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PetiteChick says:Posted: 28 May 10
Comment by friendly13 on 28 May 2010: @ Dannyco56 Oh, you don’t understand. I just mess with Queenie that is all. Actually, the sexieness of a woman is inside of her, not what she is wearing. If she has a sexy personality she doesn’t even know it until later on as she matures. It is something women learn from their mothers through socialization. I have a sexy mother. She is large but sexy. There is nothing worse than fake sexiness. I would liken fake sexiness to that of the young stars like Lindsey Lohan and Briteney Spears. I actually like them as actresses and musicians though. But as an older woman I don’t see them as truely being sexy. They are being marketed by business people before they have even been able to come in to their own. One young woman who I think is truely sexy and that is Beyonce. She can’t help it because her mother is a sexy woman. --------------------------------- Excellent observations Ms.Friendly! I like where you're coming from. It's sort of like how I described George Lopez. Another is Al Pacino. Lord hab mercy. Whooooosa! Some would say he's not handsome. It ain't got nothing to with that to me. Not necessarily a look, but that "something" that a person exudes, which is in the eye of the beholder anyway. We all have different views of what "sexy" is. Excellent points!
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Ichibod says:Posted: 28 May 10WOW!!! MLQ, "I think if you could hear each other voice in chat room. It wouldn’t be as magnified as it is now." I've always thought about that. Many times a person creates a voice in their head that they feel fits the words that they read, and as far is this blog, some of our photos. Maybe I came off wrong with someone else, so now I really can't talk to anyone without them 'virtually' hearing a tone that they feel I typed to someone else. Nobody hates Petite. False, False, False! That's what is so weird. It's like she just turned into a different person all of a sudden. I already understood the whole 'lack of vocal and visual' misconceptions. And at times, it slips my mind when I read other blogger's comments. That's why I agree with Kingpin78 when he said that I tend to jump on comments a little too fast, or whatever he said exactly. Critique accepted and appreciated. "For the record, I can’t dislike people I have never talked to on the phone or in person. Many people are not the same “persona” off the computer." Me neither. That's why I tried to work things out with that 'other' guy. He's probably a cool guy, but even though you shouldn't put too much stock into what people say, you can usually tell what type of person someone is by what they say. His grammar, punctuation, poor reading comprhension, yet his heart in the thick of battle (not a real blogger) reminds me of one of my white, wannabe-gansta acquaintances.
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