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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Look Queenie This is a public board for the purpose of people who want to discuss interracially related issues that are about "why the white men love the black women" Instead all we get is a bunch of angry black men who want to tell white men how they feel and who they should not want. Some of you hoping that they will all just stay racist so that we will be stuck with narrow minded men like you. Oh and another thing that you won't like. I am not going to train my boys up to hate white women and only like black women. I want my boys to be with a women who will love him and appreciate him, I don't care what color she is. I just want her to know who she is and to know that my son is not second rate but first rate and equal to all other men on the earth. All you want to do is get the white men to clarify your ill conceived position so you can feel ustified. I haven't seen one white man do that yet. But what, you have been on here for how many years still trying to meddle in matters that don't concern you. My dad is not circumcised either (too much information I received by my wonderful mother. Didn't really want to know...but thanks to her sharing, I do.) He is 69 and still doesn't have any prostate cancer. And he smokes. He has had several relatives die from it. He get check regularly because of it. So your fears are again unfounded and you are meddling. If you didn't lay around with so many women you wouldn't have to worry about getting infections that can cause cancer causing bacteria. I am a little on the soft side...men like that. But I am also know for being a sheer ultra bitch too. Oh and I had meant to say something to you about the thong issue....since you must know...yes I like them. I have a big butt and they don't make a pantyline showing through my clothes. I like the fancy kind with diamond link across the back or along the hips. Plus, they accent my shape. But I know that bothers you. Read'em and weep public eye. Extra! Extra! Victoria Secrets is a multi-billion dollar industry. You can see a woman wearing a thong on a poster at the damn mall. What should we cover our eyes, mouth, and ears. See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil. As far as if I think I am sexy...well, I know I am. All black women are sexy idiot: Dark (especially dark), light, medium, pregnant, not pregnant, with kids, without kids. That is why you are so hot under the collar that we are allowing white men to date us and marry us. Yes, they got more options than just white women and asian women and that just eats your ass up doesn't it. lol. Asian women love them some black men too. They may not be seeking them out to help them get their citizenship, but they meet them and fall inlove just like other women. Don't worry your time will come. lol

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  2.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    MLQ, Circumcision was a covenant between God and Abraham. Paul and Peter discussed this (or Paul explained to Peter) the concept of Jew and Gentile, circumcision and uncircumcision. I'm so glad I was circumcised (you handsome guy down there ~ yes, I talk to it, so what?). Friendly, "In the new testament the Apostle Peter the chosen man of God who Jesus told that he was a rock and he was going to establish his church upon it" No offense, but I'm guessing you're Catholic, right?

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  3.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Friendly, Did I view your profile? It had to have been some time ago, because I noticed you viewed mine around 3 weeks ago. "and are constantly poiting out how women with children are not desirale choices for companionship..." Constantly? I never said that once here. My profile reflects the options that the website allows me to excercise. Come to think of it, I looked at both your's and Petite's at the time you thought she was threatening you. I wanted to see where you two were in proximity of one another. The thread started to get uneasy back then. Also, you said you had a booty. I was looking for pics. "If you feel that way find women who don’t have children to date." I am. And my profile states that I am not totally against it. I had a discussions with a "mutual yes" regarding this subject. It is, in fact, open for discussion. "If you don’t like black women who are open to interracial dating associate with those who don’t" I won't associate with those who don't because I am not a person against a black women dating interracially. I wasn't checking your profile out for any special reason. I look at many bloggers profiles. Heck, I even checked out Laurelton's new profile. Hilarious! It's so him. Anyway, thanks for the compliments. Have a great day, ma'am!

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  4.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Okay, my favorite song at the moment is “All the above” by Maino (Jermain Coleman). He is a babydoll black man. Oh yes he is. I love the tattoo's everywhere. He is so sexy. Been through a lot. The song illustrates the struggles that many black men face and the things they have up against them. The outstanding thing about the artist who wrote the music is that after he came out of a long stint in prison he went on to become a very successful rapper. It is a very well written piece. I really enjoy it and I hope you will to. I am also going to attach a live video with Maino talking about when he did 10 years for a crime that committed that was drug related Here is the link for the interview (retrieved on May 27, 2010 from http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yePKapFN5B0) Here is the link for the Music Video http://new.music.yahoo.com/Maino/videos/view/All-The-Above--feat--T-Pain---208580387

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  5.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Petite, What was the point of quoting what I said? Tatts predicted that I'd be wrong as we both had hoped the cycle would be broken... it wasn't. I allude to that post, and one similiar I made months before it, all them time. Give me your opinion on it. I actually thought that comment would have been archived by now, but then again I haven't gone to that thread it a while since I got rid of all blog subscriptions. I'm in blog rehab right now which is why I haven't been here in a while. Nice to know I've been missed. Forgiveness has nothing to do with not liking what someone has to say. And there is no such thing as forgive and forget. The restoration of a previous relationship or no longer holding a grudge is often mistaking for forgetting, but it shouldn't never be confused as such. Like I said before, I feel as though some of someone's else's comments are being read as mine by the questions I'm receiving. "Before you come back with another question about Ms.Friendly and I, we are friendly and on very good speaking terms. We did something called “forgiveness.”" I never had a question about you two. I said: "She’s okay I guess. I want to like her but she has said some things that just don’t sit well with me, but not worth me arguing with her anymore, so I happily comment on her’s and others casual conversations as of late." You said: "That’s what forgiveness is all about. We have ALL each and everyone of us in this particular thread - said some horrible things to one or another." and then... "... why don’t you put into practice what you speak?" Are you asking why I don't after acknowledging that I did? Either way, I can't say forgiveness is necessary in this case. She doesn't need to repent to me nor other black men because of her opinions. I don't know her personally, but a lot can be drawn about a person by what they say, however only so much stock should be put into what they say, including what I say. I have somewhat championed your comments since your emergeance. I even drew criticism from MzBrown for a comment I made in favor of posts because they seemed to echoes a few of the common sentiments that the black men have tried to express. I then told MzBrown that I only said Petite was the only woman making any sense was because I hadn't heard from her, Bigeyes, and Tatts in a while. Remember that? Mecca/Paula agreed with your earlier posts regarding white men and was all too familiar with Queens. Her comments about him in posts to you eventually led to him blasting you both. "Where do you mention “friendly?” It is the very reason I don’t cut and paste. I like to address each individual on their own merits within one thread, thus the reason for my many posts. Had you began with “Friendly said:” Like you did with “Menelik” said then I would have to say I can understand." I was talking directly to Menelik. He knew exactly who made that comment therefore I saw no need to author that quote. You said: "I honestly believe you simply come to see if black men are mentioned, it has nothing to do with a concern about us." Concern? Not necessa... well? First, what should I be concerned about in such topics centered around black women? Second... you figured me out. However, since April 2009 when I first join this site, I found out quickly what I would soon find a lot of. That's why usually the first post of one of these topics always start with, "Not another one." Which goes to your question I answered earlier... You: "My question to you is, what would you find interesting about this in particular?" Me: "What I have found interesting is absolutely nothing. It has gone the route of every other thread with a topic centered around black women." I sometimes check to see if we are breaking some new ground in discussion, seeing as though a discussion or argument amongst us will definitely take place. The topic can be about Eskimo women and black men. Trust me. A black women would be there talking about white men, and saying something negative about black men in the same posts. I was shocked when I first started blogging a year ago. Now I think it's just funny and disturbing at the same time. Higher education was said earlier to enlighten people, have them see the world in a broader scope and expand options. But by many comments and opinions posted here, it seems to enlighten much like pointing a flash light in one direction, and then merely aiming it in another leaving the previous direction in darkness, and many people have believed that to be openmindedness. "I think you have said it enough for us to all be clear on it." Maybe not. Not talking about you, but the whole "black men are trying to stop black women from dating white men" and "black men can, but black women can't" thing keeps coming up. Actually, you DID make mention of "what's good for the goose, if good for the gander". That was never my intention. Being nosey and seeing if anything would every change was my intention. Yes. I'm curious to hear what white men would say about black women on THIS site. I already know what they say in public, on YouTube, and other places. Many of the same things I would say, good and bad, but not all one sided. You said: "I like to address each individual on their own merits within one thread..." So you should understand why I avoid mentioning what people say outside of this thread unless I can site sources? It's okay that you quoted me on from that other thread. By all means, tell me what I've said. I used to beg my ex-fiance to do that many times. SHOW ME THAT YOU ARE EVEN LISTENING TO ME! Anyway, the thing I'm confused about is, who are the "mob of self-righteous bla..."? Please read: Are Black women more likely to be single? Comment by Ichibod on 23 July 2009: I normally don't brag on myself, but that post was awesome! I can't believe I spent all morning typing this post. Later!

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  6.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @ Godiva You told the truth... regarding the issue about what does BITCH mean, it has been turned into a girl power acroym now by Livvi Franc It means: Babe In Total Control of Herself. Gotta see the video retrieved on may 27, 2010 from http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2onHaKs5zs I like it a lot.

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  7.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @Ich You said referring to Friendly: She’s okay I guess. I want to like her but she has said some things that just don’t sit well with me, but not worth me arguing with her anymore, so I happily comment on her’s and others casual conversations as of late. Well, actually I don't really care for you at all. I don't like your rhetoric or the fact that you are a presence on this site at all. I especially don't like the fact that you checked out my profile and are constantly poiting out how women with children are not desirale choices for companionship. If you feel that way find women who don't have children to date. If you don't like black women who are open to interracial dating associate with those who don't. It makes absolutely no sense whatsoever spend time with people with whom you cannot relate and do not believe the same as you do. Why be unequally yoked. Even if I did like to date black men I would not date you. I will be honest you are actually a nice looking black man. But we are not suited for each other. I like men that are huge and ultra macho. You just don't strike me as the type. But, I wouldn't be mad if one of my daughters brought you home for dinner. There are plenty of women out there who would love to have a brother like you who just worships the ground they walk on because they are black and you are black. You should be spending your time looking for her instead of associating with people you do not care for.

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  8.   Member says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Dear Friendly I am circumcised. I don't know what bible you are reading but it never read it was no longer necessary. Also, it cuts the risk of prostate cancer. I am not criticizing you about Petite. I just said you was soft. After everything was said, you was quick to be her friend. This is public board. What do you mean mind your business? Get it together loser.

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  9.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @ Queenie For the record...my sons are not circumcised. For what reason would I do that when the word of God clearly states that is nolonger necessary because it was just a sign in the flesh until the saviour arrived on the scene. it is pointed out to now be moot and rediculous. I am not going to allow some doctor to accidentally cut my sons penis off and make him into a girl. Oh hell no....I am not having that. As far as your sissyfied determination to criticize me for befriending PetiteChick and choosing not to get cancer holding a grudge against someone for whatever reason you feel I should.....suit yourself. If you were from New York you would have learned to mind your own damn business. But you can't teach and old dog new tricks.

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  10.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @ PetiteChick A very interesting read for those who would be interested in dealing with self-actualization is a book called “Mistakes Were Made: But not by me.” I love this book. I have it hear somewhere and will provide the author’s name but if you can not wait, Google it. Excellent book! I plan to buy this book…..Wow! The author is Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson The book discusses “Why we justify foolish beliefs, bad decisions, and hurtful acts” Brief excerpts from the website about the book (the link follows): “We are all capable of believing things which we know to be untrue, and then, when we are finally proved wrong, impudently twisting the facts so as to show that we were right. Intellectually, it is possible to carry on this process for an indefinite time: the only check on it is that sooner or later a false belief bumps up against solid reality, usually on a battlefield. —George Orwell (1946) A great nation is like a great man: When he makes a mistake, he realizes it. Having realized it, he admits it. Having admitted it, he corrects it. He considers those who point out his faults as his most benevolent teachers. —Stephen Mitchell’s modern translation of the Tao Te Ching, in homage to Lao Tzu (ca. 500 B.C.) At some point we all make a bad decision, do something that harms another person, or cling to an outdated belief. When we do, we strive to reduce the cognitive dissonance that results from feeling that we, who are smart, moral, and right, just did something that was dumb, immoral, or wrong.” (Retrieved on May 27, 2010 from http://mistakesweremadebutnotbyme.com/) Thanks for sharing this resource. I'm going to get it.

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  11.   Member says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    (Eating Popcorn) (Listening to Friendly) "Regarding what I said about Queenie and the circumcision of women…you are probably right that he really wouldn’t enjoy that. However, when he makes comments like “…I live by the 48 laws of power. If I let black women stand up, they will try to fight us again. I make it my point to keep my foot on their neck.” it is the same ideology of the african men who impose such cruelty on the young women of the countries that practice such cruel and controlling behavior. I know that Queenie is mostly a bunch of hot air. But he needs to think about if he was legally able to impose his proposterous ideas this is how cruel it would be." Africa has been doing female circumcision for a long time. Also, it is black women in that culture that participate in it. They also do "breast binding" or something related to that. They try to delay the young girls from getting breasts. It is to guard against rape. I was watching the History Channel on it. So, Europeans are brainwashing you again. Um, Europeans often think African culture is Barbaric. What I find Barbaric is letting African people starve so you can take their land and resources. How the fuck do you starve in Africa? A PhD professor begged the question at a seminar I attended. I thought about it for a long time. People are worried about female circumcision. Considering, the young girls are mentally prepared for this ritual. A boy gets his penis circumcised in the United States nobody thinks twice about this. Why, because it is in an fancy hospital operating room. Friendly, also this Comment by friendly13 on 27 May 2010: @ Queenie You said “….I am from New York…” Okay so that means you are like what tough or something? Uh, tougher than you, I don't make friends with people that went overboard insulting me. Then, again I would be you then. You also said this "You just got through bragging and telling us all the intimate details about going out with some multi-racial chick who looks white and has a white mama. Bragging about how men were groping at her because she was so pretty and you had to stick your little chest out to protect her honor. At least until you could get her home and try to take advantage of her. But she was at least smart enough not to let you. You know you were proud about being seen with that white looking black woman who was, what? ONLY 2O YEARS OLD. Then you won’t even take her with you to florida because you said she is country. It’s probably because after you begged her to go she probably said no because you are too controlling." Uh, proud in a small white town. LOL Why would I take a girl I just met to Florida with me? Do you expect a white man to take you in with your 4 kids? I am controlling now? I will be sure to tell the "other women" I meet in Florida I am all of the things you mentioned. Good day to you. LOL

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  12.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    lifes2short You said "...her life is too short to be spending ur time on a blog trying to tell other women there sellouts for trying to be with a different racial color so u men out there getting all pissy with these women because they wanna date in a different feild that is just wrong completely and ur prolly right i dont know what ur goin through but u guys give them hell cuz them trying to keep u from doin something based on color is wrong that much i do know" Thank you for your support. I truely appreciate it. I am glad that you are able to express how you feel without shame.

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  13.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    PetiteChick You said "The desertion isn’t inherent, you say? OK, get back to me when you include BLACK WOMEN IN YOUR SLAVE AND DISENFRANCHISED SONET. Is this also the reason why Black men seek the “forbidden fruit?” That is deep girl. Whoah.

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  14.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @ Ms Godiva I apologize for getting back so late with my response to what you shared about your family: "My son made the Deans List, my nephew has been awarded a full Academic Scholarship to Johns Hopkins University, my Mom is healing(she had a very unfortunate ordeal a few weeks ago). So that’s what’s good in my life!! I hope yours is good, or better yet, even better!!!" Congratulations. I can share in that happiness to know that these are black children who have been mentored and supported by a wonderful educated black woman who has been instrumental in taking these young people to hieghts that others are discouraged to achieve. Wow! Your nephew was accepted to John's Hopkins on academic scholarship. Outstanding. I am so happy for you and your family and our country because these young people are going to do great things like Benjamin Carson and Julia Carson and so many of our great educated black people who are getting on in years. We need the young people to be encouraged so that they can take our places and continue to encourage more young black children that they too can achieve great things.

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  15.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @ the sellout accusers You try to use the bible to justify your foolish racist trash? What you think that white supremacy is wrong but black supremacy is not? We are all one race, the human race. When you try to segregate through relationships all you do is justify the Darwinist values that suggests that we all come from apes which is total unproven hog wash. We are not apes but humans. The worst concept that came from slavery was the difference made between the color of ones skin which really actually only boils down to social status. Reality our social status is no longer determined by skin color. If you want to use the bible to impose your racist concepts you are wrong because even the bible records incidents of racism being judged by God as wrong through leprosy and rebuke. In the book of Numbers chapter 12 and verse 1 it says "And Miriam and Aaron spake against Moses because of the Ethiopian woman whom he had married: for he had married an Ethiopian woman." Then the judgement of God came down and this is what happened in Num 12:10 "And the cloud departed from off the tabernacle; and, behold, Miriam [became] leprous, [white] as snow: and Aaron looked upon Miriam, and, behold, [she was] leprous. Num 12:11 And Aaron said unto Moses, Alas, my lord, I beseech thee, lay not the sin upon us, wherein we have done foolishly, and wherein we have sinned." Of course the in-between versus are just as deep. In the new testament the Apostle Peter the chosen man of God who Jesus told that he was a rock and he was going to establish his church upon it...this same Apostle had to be straightened out by the Apostle Paul because Peter had a spirit of racism that was going to hinder the effectiveness of Gods work and the racist attitude was not of God and was wrong. The scripture says in Galatians chapter 2 verse 14 "But when I saw that they walked not uprightly according to the truth of the gospel, I said unto Peter before [them] all, If thou, being a Jew, livest after the manner of Gentiles, and not as do the Jews, why compellest thou the Gentiles to live as do the Jews?" Then some of you sellout preachers have the nerve to tell us black mothers that we are not responsible because we enjoy interracial dating and are willing to date and marry a white man. For what reason? Because you think we should only marry black men. You are hypocrites for even being registered on an interracial site. What you got on an interracial site to find black women who are obviously not interested in you in the first place. You drop lines at us and look at our profiles and get mad because we are not interested in you. Then you have the nerve to try to be better than us and make us feel bad because we have children. You try to convince us that no one wants us because we have children you self-righteous idiots. What did your mommy and daddy not teach you to simply mind your own damn business and not to put your nose in other peoples matters. Who I chose to date is none of your business. The bible also talks about busy bodies always meddling and going around tale carrying in an attempt to shame people from making choices they are perfectly entitled to make. Have you heard the story about the virgin Mary who was found with a child that did not belong to her fiancé. Didn't God work that out. Don't waste you time trying to use the bible to prove your ridiculous childish point because that is so lame and wrong. I personally would not want to use God who made all of mankind to discriminate and to be judgemental for the purpose of imposing your own personal rediculous values.

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  16.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Good morning everyone. I am about to post a long one. This is more spiritual though. I still got some more catching up to do I see. Plus, I am also working on a powerpoint project for class so I will be checking in inbetween.

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  17.   dannyco56 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @petitechick, Good morning! I hope your day is a great one. Hope that you have a great weekend. Thank you! @MzBrOwNSuGaR, Good morningto you as well! I hope you have a great day and weekend. Thank you! @godiva61 Good morning! Congratulations to you and your son on his accomplishment. From what you wrote you have a very intelligent and loving son with a strong sense of right and wrong and the strengh to make the tough choices. Blessings to you and your son. @Bamababe2k9, Good morning! I hope that you have a great day and a great weekend. Thank you for all of your kind words. I read the following post of yours: Comment by Bamababe2k9 on 26 May 2010: I’m about to blow this blog up with what I am about to say. Folks we need to stop using slavery as an excuse for sorrieness, ignorance and disrespect among our race. Most of our parents and grandparents had it a helluva a lot tougher then most of us can imagine and yet, they managed to make it through segeration and racism in tougher times then this and stuck together. So no this is not post slavery, this is a generation of sorry ass men and women. Men who have abandon their families and who refuse to raise their own damn kids,don’t want to raise to a different level with their sistas and still blame the white man for their issues which they have created themselves. Women who open their legs to anyone and everyone, who won’t teach their daughters self respect and then have the nerve to get mad if they see an educated brotha with a white girl. When is it ever OUR fault as black people? We are in the situation we are in because of us. Not white folks US. We got a generation of sorriness and excuse making. We all need to stop making excuses and make men and women both responible for their own actions. I’m with a white man not because I think they are superiority to me but because that’s who I am attracted to. Last time I check it didn’t make me less black because of my preference. I don’t sit there and say well if brothas would treat me better, no ma’am no sir, I am with a white man because that’s who I find attractive and in a lot of case that’s what’s going on. Not a hate of one’s race or some kind post-slavery bullshit, it’s because of environment and social economic growth. A lot this people is of our own doing and we need to face that fact of life. I admire your strengh, your inteligence, your ability to just say what is on your mind. You are a jewel of great rarity. @frienddly13 Good morning! Thank you for your thoughts and your insights and for shairing knowledge. I hope you have a great day and a great weekend. @Scof and Sarah, Good morning! I hope that you have a great day ad an even greater weekend together. You both are an inspiration. @lifes2short, Good morning! I hope that you have a great day and a great weekend, I read your post. I almost missed it in there because it was pretty short, but I agree there are some pretty messed up people in all races but they are the minority. @tattedtodeath, Good morning! I hope that you have a great day and a great weekend. All, God Bless! Danny

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  18.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @ friendly13: Yes I do understand where you are coming from. I don't know, If I lived to be 150, I still wouldn't understand why some people get such pleasure in saying or doing things to hurt other people. But they do. I believe he is full of it too, but there is still damage done by his words.

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  19.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @ Petitechick I have nothing negative to say about Toni Braxton, she is very talanted and I could only wish to look as good as she does. I was talking about the "do" she was sporting. Lemme see if I can describe it.It was blonde a short style. It had the part that covered up one eye, but it looked twisted around sideways and pulled up exposing the whole side of her own hair which looked like she has taken a razor to and then died the new growth blond. It looked almost like a toupee. I dunno was just strange looking to me, lol.

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  20.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @BrOwNSuGaR You commented "...I don’t for one minute believe Queens would relish something so cruel." Regarding what I said about Queenie and the circumcision of women...you are probably right that he really wouldn't enjoy that. However, when he makes comments like "...I live by the 48 laws of power. If I let black women stand up, they will try to fight us again. I make it my point to keep my foot on their neck." it is the same ideology of the african men who impose such cruelty on the young women of the countries that practice such cruel and controlling behavior. I know that Queenie is mostly a bunch of hot air. But he needs to think about if he was legally able to impose his proposterous ideas this is how cruel it would be.

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  21.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Comment by PetiteChick on 27 May 2010: @MzBrown: You misunderstood dahhhling. Those were Ich’s words, not mine. It’s quoted verbatim. Go head on ova and look for yourself. Peace baby! =================== LOL, I did indeed see the quotation marks. The mention of a typo was for my own.

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  22.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @ Queenie You said “….I am from New York…” Okay so that means you are like what tough or something? You said “…I can’t stand soft women…” No, what your ass needs is a hard lesbian who will kick your butt a few times and set you straight about what kinds of control you want to exert to make a woman act and think the way you want her to. You said “…Again, it is kind of creepy to be with a woman that worships your skin color….” You are just angry because your skin color is not the one being worshiped by asian women or any woman for that matter. You just got through bragging and telling us all the intimate details about going out with some multi-racial chick who looks white and has a white mama. Bragging about how men were groping at her because she was so pretty and you had to stick your little chest out to protect her honor. At least until you could get her home and try to take advantage of her. But she was at least smart enough not to let you. You know you were proud about being seen with that white looking black woman who was, what? ONLY 2O YEARS OLD. Then you won’t even take her with you to florida because you said she is country. It’s probably because after you begged her to go she probably said no because you are too controlling.

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  23.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Ladies, who's planning their summer vaca???? Holla, I'm stepping out but I'll be back, God willing. Bamba, Friendly Godiva, MzBrown, Tatted (((hugs)))

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  24.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Comment by Ichibod on 27 May 2010: I Just wanna clear some stuff up here. I didn’t state that, Friendly did. However, to answer the following question you had, I mentioned before to MzBrown and Bama weeks ago that if I see something mentioned about black women I am going read it. I don’t comment unless I hear something negative about black men. ======= Ich, you are right you did mention it to me and I purposely declined to comment. But since ya bring it up "YET" again, I shall. You say, you come running when you read something being mentioned about black women and then only comment when they say something about black men. I honestly believe you simply come to see if black men are mentioned, it has nothing to do with a concern about us. I think you have said it enough for us to all be clear on it. Actually, I was reading some very old posts on some of the other blogs, some dated back to 2008, and you were saying the same thing then. This all just goes around and around in circles. It brings to mind the saying " ARE WE THERE YETTTT?"

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  25.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    I love my sister friend Godiva! (((hugs)))

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  26.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @MzBrown: Who lumped all brothers where? LOL. I am merely pointing out a fact that he said that there will be the usual women discussing the point and no White men. No typo. Just you didn't read it quite correctly. *smooches*

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  27.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Good Morning, Godiva is flawed, Friendly is flawed, Petite is flawed, EVERYONE here is flawed!!!! There's NOT one person here, that could HONESTLY say that they have always said and did the right thing!! FACT, FACT. FACT!! I have heard MANY comments, that did NOT set well with me, I think we all have, is this not true? The one set of comment's were the BLATANT,DEFILE,DISRESPECTFUL, comment's directed towards the Older Women, who came here, and let's not forget the referring to women as BITCHES!! What is a Bitch?? Isn't a female Dog? So if a man calls a woman a bitch, would it be fair to assume that he is a MUTT??? Everyone that comes here, be it once in a while, everyday, a million times a day, comes for different reasons, with different mindsets, and with certain motives, which I believe some motives for being here are SOLEY to be disruptive!!! This is NOT the place or the format for ANYONE,(NOTICE I SAID ANYONE, NO SPECIFIC COLOR OR GENDER) to recycle your garbage, nor should we have to deal with your personal issues. Opinions, are just that, opinions!!! This is NOT to say that your opinion holds more or less validity than another's opinion, it just means, it DIFFERS from someone else's!!! If you are over 21, use common sense, treat people in the manner in which you want to be treated, claim that you are so intelligent, not to mention so educated, then when you hear a different opinion, you still should be able to engage in a civil dialogue while disagreeing!!!! We come from different backrounds, with different experiences, and again with different opinion's, it's to be expected. Just because you have not had the pleasure of being in a committed, healthy relationships, that does NOT mean that the rest of us can IDENTIFY with your disdain, your anger, or your hurt. I nor any other black woman here, should be subjected to your ranting and raving's, your condescending and snide remarks, your generalizations, your black women this, black women that rhetoric. Keep that with the BLACK WOMAN(WOMAN IS STILL SINGULAR ISN'T IT) who did, or did not do for you ,and to you!!! Truth is, you don't know ALL black women, you just know the black women that was in YOUR life!!!!! THIS APPLIES TO THE WOMEN AS WELL!! The dime store analysis need to cease as well!!! Analyze your ownself, and your own life!!! Someone could analyze you as well!!! I, and I'm sure other's don't have daddy issues, although I was a daddy girl, all black women don't have issues with black men! What you think that you know, is not the same of knowing for sure!! You only know what you know, until you know something that you didn't know before!! I find it ironic and very HYPOCRITICAL, to keep hearing the plea of being accepted as an individual, which should be the case, denouncing the stereotyping, and yet, these same people indulge in the exact same behavior!!! When this happens, and I'm speaking for me only, your credibility has now taken a nose dive!! Everyday that we wake up, we get the chance to start anew. We should strive to be better than yesterday, but too many of us do not appreciate life enough, to start over, or make ammends. What a waste of space and time! Petite and Friendly, Thank God you forgave each other, and moved on!! Last but not least, is this site considered to be a sort of a NEIGHBORHOOD so to speak??? It seems to me when you take the NEIGHBOR, out of the word NEIGHBORHOOD, what are you left with?? Value yourself, value your neighborhood!! love godiva PS. I'm speaking from my heart and I know there might be some here who can NOT allow themselves to understand what I have said here, that's to be expected, but to those who will probably respond in a negative way, catch me on a day when your negativity, is a priority on my list!!!

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  28.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @MzBrown: You misunderstood dahhhling. Those were Ich's words, not mine. It's quoted verbatim. Go head on ova and look for yourself. Peace baby!

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  29.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Typo alert.. that was s'pose to read No, not a mob.

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  30.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Comment by PetiteChick on 27 May 2010: “Oh, crap! Not another topic that ask a question about white men and will probably get many posts, but very few answers or opinions from white men. Instead, it will end up loaded with posts from a mob of proud, self-righteous bla… well, we’ll just see if I called it right or not.” No a mob at all, but the same 3 or 4. We can't lump all brothers up in this.

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  31.   MzBrOwNSuGaR says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Hi Danny dear. Good to see you again. Have a blessed day and safe holiday weekend.

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  32.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @Ich White Men are the Least Attracted to Black Men Comment by Ichibod on 8 October 2009: Just an excerpt from my first post on September 18th. “Oh, crap! Not another topic that ask a question about white men and will probably get many posts, but very few answers or opinions from white men. Instead, it will end up loaded with posts from a mob of proud, self-righteous bla… well, we’ll just see if I called it right or not.”

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  33.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    To those who might not like my continued posts as though I am here to "control" the board: I do it for a REASON. If you don't like them, don't read them. I don't cut and paste much. I like to respond this way to separate pieces of a discussion for the sake of clarity. There will be no confusing of my words here. Peace.

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  34.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @Ich You said referring to Friendly: She’s okay I guess. I want to like her but she has said some things that just don’t sit well with me, but not worth me arguing with her anymore, so I happily comment on her’s and others casual conversations as of late. That's what forgiveness is all about. We have ALL each and everyone of us in this particular thread - said some horrible things to one or another. The point that the sisters gathered to discuss was moving forward. Letting it go. Because quite frankly what good does it do us? Really? What's to gain? If you can quote the Bible, then you should also know that to be God-like (in your quest) he forgives. Now, you strike me as a fairly spiritual or religious man - why don't you put into practice what you speak? Forgive.....forget, keep it moving toward progressiveness and understanding one another without rancor and vitriol. I've done it, had planned to do with the men. Thought I made some gains, but hey..

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  35.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @Ich You sure? It seemed you and Laurelton were cool at first and then he flipped on you for being chummy with Mecca. My response: Isn't that rather dumb? Why would he be mad about who I choose to become friendly with? I don't care who he is friendly with. WTF kind of stuff is that? C'mon are you really dead ass serious? Ok, then, just wow, wow.......

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  36.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @Dannyco56 My reply-I will accept the fact that the majority of black men pick black women first without question. But will you admit that black men started dating outside their race first? And why do you think that a black woman should reserve herself for a black man exclusively? Do you think that a black woman dates outside her race just to get back at the black man? Really? Is that a show of dominance? I doubt that a black woman thinks she has the same physical strength as a black man. Thank you. Also You said-I don’t try to keep my race of women “in line”. I merely state that I will go to the “wall for them”. Regardless, of how they feel about it. I am a natural born leader period. My reply-I am not sure what you mean about ”going to the wall for them” means but if it means you will protect them and their honor then I commend you. Who are you leading and where are you leading them? More thanks....

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  37.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @Ich..... Booker T Washington, YES!!!! Bill Cosby yes and no. I used to love sister Souljah too. But I have chosen to steer clear of so much radicalism. She was fiyah, at a time when, well when it was called for. Radical views of anything pertaining to religion, politics, whatever - within a civil society disturbs me. I let that go. Back in the day, there used to be a group of Black Israelites that used to prop themselves on a particular corner in Harlem and spew hatred. I never really listened cause I was always on my way somewhere to get what I had to get and come home. Have you ever heard of this Dirt Bag of a preacher called Pastor Manning (Charles - I think)? He's a Black minister from Harlem with a huge following, both Black and White. Guess why? He denigrades his own people. Imagine that. There are plenty of self-loathing Blacks walking around amongst us. I let one friend go recently because of his association and his attempts to indoctrinate me with that bullshyt. Google him. He's a friggin joke.

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  38.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    G'morning sis Brown Comment by MzBrOwNSuGaR on 27 May 2010: Did anyone see Toni Braxton on George Lopez tonite? What is up with that hair style? I love George Lopez. He is a kool dude. They moved his time slot where I am though. Been missing his show lately but it gets DVR'd (is that a word)? Teeheee What, pray tell was wrong with her heahhh? I like Toni, she was probably there try'n to push a new Album. Do you know George's show reminds me a lot of Arsenio's show back in the day. Errrrrbody be on his show. I love him. Tall, Dark and Chicano. Whoooooosaaa! George be stomping with the Bid dogs too. Was just at the President's latest affair with wifey. Looking so dayum good. My daughter say's "you like him?" I go ummmm, yeahhhh! She doesn't see the attraction. It's not necessarily about attractiveness to me always. Rather something about a person that stands out. Hmmmmm, methinks I'm on to something good too. If all goes well y'all will see less of me. Ha! Getting hot, sister ready to hit Virginia Beach or Myrtle Beach. I know my sisters will miss me, but then I know others will be glad I'm gone. CTFU!!!!

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  39.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @Ich I think you know I'm speaking of the 20th and 21st Century. Now, given you want to be that technical, I must presume you are doing this in an attempt to skirt around the issue. BLACK MEN DID START THE INTER-RACIAL DATING FIRST. FINALLY WHICH BLACK MEN DURING THE PILGRIM AGE DATE WHITE WOMEN? Teeheeheee FINALLY TO MAKE MY SELF AS CLEAR AS I POSSIBLY CAN, LET'S FOCUS ON BLACK MEN DATING WHITE WOMEN, RATHER THAN INTER-RACIAL DATING IN AND OF ITSELF. That might work better.

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  40.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @Ich I Just wanna clear some stuff up here. ALL SYSTEMS ARE GO.....

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  41.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @Ich Let Laurelton address me if he wants. He's been doing fine with that. Me cussing him and he cussing me. Hmmmph....thanks but I prefer to take up my issues with the ones I have issues with. Thank ya, sir! LOL

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  42.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Good morning Dannyco56!, Geneandthem, Ladies.... Have a wonderful day. (hugs to my girls) Ms. Bamba is right yet again. The twisting of words, the ineffectual cramming of one's comments into a whole. That ain't kool. It's deceptive. *picturing Bamba somehwere in a corner saying* I told you so, LOL. Love you sis....

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  43.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @Ich Who is Mecca?

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  44.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @Ich January 17th, 2008 Why some Black women only date White Men Posted by James You, Laurelton, Malarki and Tyrant are there. Why? Of course you have every right to write where you please, but how dare someone else ask me why I am here in THIS thread when it has more to do with me than it does you. I'm a woman, I'm Black. I came as a voice with disagreement which is what I am allowed to do, much like your disagreements with thread discussion you inserted yourself in. I stand firm in my observation. You are just as complicit and often times many of you guys don't think we're paying attention. Sometimes I do, and sometimes I don't. It's not that serious to me. But when you come in here and throw stones, as one person once said to me, be careful that glass house ain't fix'n to break.

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  45.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @Ich Menelik wouldn’t leave Friendly alone with the same post You missed a lot. I asked him to stop too. Nicely. He did agree. I did appreciate that. I implored him the same way he implored me to stop the fighting going on between MsFriendly and I. I took his advice. I asked that he do likewise. There is one person here who is the master of pull ups. Recommend he do so to clear the air and set the facts straight! I love the truth - how bout you?

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  46.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    I'm sawwweeee, I lubs ya! Me neither, but I had to go MzBrown....

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  47.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @ich I so did want to ask you as well, why all of a sudden are you so willing to engage me in conversation. This is fairly new isn't it? Think real hard...........

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  48.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @Ich I was doing what you do for the sake of comraderie of your Black brothers (you did say that you have that) When Hannes72 came in here and started disparaging African women. I took his behind to task. This is what caused the rift between she and I. I was at his ass because he pointed out some lies and I told her. She mistook it for me here to join the band wagon. That was never the case. Before you come back with another question about Ms.Friendly and I, we are friendly and on very good speaking terms. We did something called "forgiveness." Peace

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  49.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    @ich “When I started blogging here I thought I was going to get to read thoughts from white men about why they love the black women.” Me, too! “Why white men love the black woman”, interesting question. --------------------------------- Where do you mention "friendly?" It is the very reason I don't cut and paste. I like to address each individual on their own merits within one thread, thus the reason for my many posts. Had you began with "Friendly said:" Like you did with "Menelik" said then I would have to say I can understand. I came here because quite frankly this thread speaks of Black women. Not Black men. Yes, I've seen other threads where you inserted yourself into the conversation that had absolutely nothing to do with the Black man. You even went so far in one thread to proclaim (jokingly - so you say) that you were there to see what they had to say. Tatted replied immediately after you. Do you think I don't read as well? Sorry. I do. To your point about Laurelton: Laurelton nor you ever really spoke to me that much. I'd like the master of pull ups to go back and take a look see. Most of the time I asked Laurelton something or made a comment I was ignored. I can COUNT THE NUMBER OF TIMES ON my hand that we had any exchange at all. It was Menelik, Bamba and I who had to the most discussions during the tense time in here immediately following MsFriendly and I's argument. Neither you nor Laurelton barely said a word to me. You are good at pulling up posts. If you can you should go back and look. Finally, an Olive Branch was offered THIS WEEK. Ms. Godiva called it. Ask her, she'll tell you. You've not been here, and oh yes babe, I'm sure.

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  50.   dannyco56 says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Dear Laurelton, You said- I disagree with you. I actually THINK race relations will get worse in this country. No amount of interracial dating will change that. My reply-It is alright if you disagree you may be right but I hope not. If race relations do get better it will not be because of interracial dating and I never meant to imply that it would. What will help to improve race relations are better educated young people. You said-I don’t try to keep my race of women “in line”. I merely state that I will go to the “wall for them”. Regardless, of how they feel about it. I am a natural born leader period. My reply-I am not sure what you mean about ”going to the wall for them” means but if it means you will protect them and their honor then I commend you. Who are you leading and where are you leading them? You said-There is certain segment of black women that can respect that I care about them to a fault. However, I will not tolerate the bashing of black men or anything else. My reply-Are you as quick to defend the black woman from being bashed? You should! You said-You got to understand something. I never picked black women last, nor have a majority of black men. Their superficial and vain commentary put them in an impossible situation. Nobody ever sees the smack that causes us to put them on their ass. My reply-I will accept the fact that the majority of black men pick black women first without question. But will you admit that black men started dating outside their race first? And why do you think that a black woman should reserve herself for a black man exclusively? Do you think that a black woman dates outside her race just to get back at the black man? Really? Is that a show of dominance? I doubt that a black woman thinks she has the same physical strength as a black man. You said-I live by the 48 laws of power. If I let black women stand up, they will try to fight us again. I make it my point to keep my foot on their neck. My reply-Where did you get these 48 laws of power? Are you for real Laurelton? Your foot on their neck? Figure of speech or hyperbole or both or are you talking literally? You said-I agree with Petite and Bama on some comments concerning black men having been decimated by prisons, diseases and etc. That don’t change the fact black men overall pick black women first. That comes with living in this society. White men get away with corruption (illegal bailouts, downsizing companies to hire cheap labor, illegal wars). They don’t get prosecuted for it because they pay off people. That is another story. My reply-Your last sentence in this paragraph is correct it is another story that we can talk about later but does not really pertain to what I have written. You said-Now, sellout black women can get on their knees and beg or entice a white man to be with them all they want. My reply-I don’t think that any of these women would have to get on their knees to beg or entice a white man to be with them or a black man for that matter. You said-The fact remains white men weed them out selectively. My reply-I do not agree with that. I think you believe they are weeded out and you believe it is selective. You said-A white guy on my blog said “when has a race of men ever want ALL THE women in one race”. My reply-Not sure what the point is here. You said-I responded to him. Exactly, so why give black women false hope? My reply-Not sure which black women you are talking about here. Is it the women that prefer black men that are given false hope? You said-You won’t date the poor, obese, uneducated black women and black women with multiple children. You won’t date black women that solely live in black neighborhoods. My reply-I won’t date black women who are drop dead gorgeous, who are college educated with PHD’s, Who are loaded with money, who have no children, who live in Beverly Hills either. Because I am already married and that is not why I am here. If someone is interested I will expound on that subject if asked. You said-Why don’t you just tell the truth? My reply-I already told you look above. You said-At the end of the day, they know I AM THE TRUTH. My reply-Maybe they do and maybe they don’t. I will not be so presumptuous. You said- I am not “narrow minded”. I just became “awake” of what the black man interests are. My reply- I will have to take your word on that because I will not presume to know what the interests of all black men are. You said-Our interests are black women. We will do anything to protect those “interests”. My reply-You really mean protecting your interests don’t you? I appreciate your sharing of your thoughts and insights. God Bless! Danny

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