Relocating for love
Dumping your career for the sake of love isn’t that easy. Now imagine having to leave it all behind … family, friends, a home and that career of yours.
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Well, some woman did it. She was six month’s pregnant and when the husband asked her to do him a favor and move to Madrid, between her and the three words in her Spanish vocabulary, she couldn’t say no. But not every one is so quick to start parking up those boxes for a partner. Deciding whether or not to move is something that requires a lot of consideration. This move will either bring you closer or break you.
Speaking of relocation, with the current rise in online dating, people are now dating across continents. What if he or she asks you to leave it all and fly across that continent to be with him or her? Would you?
When should you rip up your life as you have always known it for the sake of a relationship?
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blahblahblah726 says:Posted: 03 Dec 09people move for jobs all the time. why not for love too?
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pretty says:Posted: 23 Oct 09
Kindly link me up with a white man.i am black myself but i ve never been happy with black men and may never be
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fire321 says:Posted: 26 Jul 09I have mixed feelings about this because I'm a firm believer in "you need to spend a fair amount of time together to really KNOW who you're dealing with". If you think about it, there are a lot of people online that swears there aren't any quality men/women in or near where they live. If that is the case, what makes one believe that they will find it in someone from another state/country? I seems kind of surreal in my opinion....an epidemic...hehe Don't get me wrong, I've made online friendships with several people and it's fine and dandy but that does not mean that I know these people beyond chatting or phone calls. The reality of it is, people can be who and what they want online but you will never really know that person until you can spend time with them and see them outside of the 'net or over the phone. I personally won't uproot my life for someone in another city (let alone state) because my decisions will also effect my children.
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Member says:Posted: 19 May 09
Sometimes it is unfortunate that why people we want to love, choose not to love us back. I strongly believe that we all have a match in this word but need to wait until we can get a serious relationship with us and will last. When one attempt to a relationship fails, it simply meant to be. If you are affected with the pain because of the relationship, always remember you can recover it. This could be easily dealt with if only our emotions are not evolved when we start to feel strongly for someone but more often than not ,the heart rules strongly over our head.
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morninflower says:Posted: 16 Oct 08Thanks swf68! :) - I agree with you comments about taking the time to make things work. My ex and I did the long distance thing for a year - and moving felt right and to be honest with you, I would not change anything about the entire experience because in a way, moving changed other aspects of my life especially my education and career :)
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SWF68 says:Posted: 15 Oct 08
I have a optimistic outlook... Nothing ventured, Nothing gained. I'm too old to be young & too young to be old. I've given this a great deal of thought. For me, I would do it. However, I wouldn't rush it. I would definately want "us" to take our time getting to know each other, wanting to be together, making plans, setting goals, & learning what it is we both want. I've learned that "forever" can be over tomorrow. There are no guarantees in life. So why not LIVE while we can! "Experience is what you get, when you didn't get what you wanted." But what harm do you do to yourself if you do try? "Morninflower" - you did it! And I applaud you for saying that "things didn't work out". You could have been angry & bitter over it, instead you found the silver lining & stayed anyway... Going into anything with the "I have nothing to lose" attitude usually wins you the day!!
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morninflower says:Posted: 15 Oct 08
Been there done that! - things did not work out..but thank God I chose a great city! :) :)! lol!Would I do it again..? probably not but then again love makes us do strange things :)
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Daria22 says:Posted: 02 Apr 08
I can't imagine doing it but I'm not dead-set against it. Love can't conquer all and if I'm going to be unhappy as a result, I'd hope that my partner would weigh that heavily. You can't have a good relationship if one person is miserable.
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carmelskingirl says:Posted: 17 Mar 08
Yes I would make the move, Just make sure it is for love and it is someone that you know that you want and want to be with. Not out of lust..
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Prettypaw says:Posted: 14 Mar 08
I am at the point in my life where I am not afraid to move, but more for me than love. Been a Jersey girl all my life, but why? Fear, comfort, family. Not me. Relocate if you want, just make sure it's for the love of you, not him or the idea of being with him.
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snehaseeli says:Posted: 11 Mar 08
I've considered whether or not I was willing to relocate (even outside of the states). You're right, it's a matter of changes everything! The individual circumstances should dictate the answer to that. And should have been considered along back when the dating turned serious. The asking party and the movee should start discussing the "what if's" when that realization be became a reality. The one addtional question to that would be, when do you consider it to be serious enough to consider the possibilities?
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Right SWF68, forever is a long piece of time. However, as Davy Crockett said, "Be always sure you’re right—then go ahead!” Then, accept the consequences (which can be rewards) of your decision. Who knows? You might find, as Morninflower did, that the changes overall are worth the risk.