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Matthew Hussey: Do's and Don'ts for Your First Date

Posted by Christelyn, 10 Dec

Matthew's at it again with a few gems of advice to prep you before you go out on that date. Matthew suggests:

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  • Don't take too long to get ready for a date. The longer you prep, the more nervous you get.

  • Get physical right from the start. Give your date a hug, a high-five, a touch on the shoulder.

  • Let him be the man. Let him feel needed and chivalrous.

  • Don't spend time worrying about awkward silences. Let the silence pass without worrying about filling the space up.

  • No complaining! No whining! Make a positive impression and don't moan about your life. Remember you're selling yourself!

  • Laugh through the date. It's a great way to break the tension. Guys like women that make them feel funny. He'll have more attraction for you.

  • Let every part of your personality shine through.

  • Don't talk about your ex! Even if he asks, he really doesn't want to know.

  • Make eye contact. When he's speaking, stare deeply into his eyes.

  • Make the date short and sweet. Leave him wanting more!

  • Most importantly, RELAX!

Matthew Hussey is a renowned dating expert and author. His latest dating book Get The Guy is a New York Times bestseller. He's the go-to relationship expert for Rachael Ray, Katie Couric, Ryan Seacrest, Meredith Vieira and many others. And he's a relationship columnist for Cosmopolitan magazine and the resident love expert for "The Today Show." Here he shares his proven strategies to get a man to do anything you want, from tirelessly pursuing you to treating you like a goddess to committing to you for life.

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  1.   Zatoorai says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 24

    Thanks dear for the advise.i got it

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  2.   Goodlll says:
    Posted: 02 Jul 24

    Thanks for sharing this..I love to be touched and wanted

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  3.   Pinkspeedy40 says:
    Posted: 24 May 24

    Thank you for your advice

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  4.   Jannyehi says:
    Posted: 09 May 24

    Thanks for the advice, because I'm a boring type

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  5.   Dominic1125 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 24

    That we all need it to be

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  6.   CeeTinah says:
    Posted: 20 Apr 24

    Any white guy looking for a black African Woman? Let's give love a chance ❤️

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  7.   Nananono says:
    Posted: 03 Jun 23

    Good advices

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  8.   Chukulu says:
    Posted: 14 Jan 23

    Thanks for your advise but I have tried many of these men none wants to respond. I Don know why and I have seen others testimonials

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  9.   Fatumaaa says:
    Posted: 12 Jan 23

    I appreciate your advice

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  10.   Wezd says:
    Posted: 16 Dec 22

    Beautiful tips, thanks Matthew

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  11.   Pkish says:
    Posted: 27 Nov 22

    Actually, this is a wonderful advice, blessings to this couple, God bless you

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  12.   GrantG. says:
    Posted: 07 Nov 22

    It's really nice

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  13.   Silversenior says:
    Posted: 18 Oct 22

    I appreciate your advice and it’s on point

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  14.   Btenda says:
    Posted: 04 Oct 22

    Hope to get someone whom i experience with

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  15.   Beccacares says:
    Posted: 27 Sep 22

    Wow nice one

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  16.   Ekiconco says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 22

    Hope to get someone whom I experience with Mathew's tips,thanks grt advice

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  17.   Ekiconco says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 22

    Hope to get someone who I experience with Mathew's tips,thanks grt advice

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  18.   Brianorina says:
    Posted: 05 Jun 22

    Such a beautiful couple hoping to find one white lady here

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  19.   Hazel74 says:
    Posted: 06 May 22

    Hope to get someone to go on this date with

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  20.   Sherrysherr says:
    Posted: 11 Apr 22

    How does it feel to be on a date.

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  21.   Rosaree says:
    Posted: 29 Mar 22

    Woow, nice tips

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  22.   Jessydee says:
    Posted: 11 Mar 22

    I don't like a person who lies to me

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  23.   Lesundra says:
    Posted: 06 Mar 22

    Thank,s for the Tips, really enjoyed them, please keep them comming, Lesundra.

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  24.   Christmorris says:
    Posted: 06 Mar 22

    Good

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  25.   TeineSamo4 says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 22

    Good advice, but the only thing is, nobody asked me it in a date yet

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  26.   Mickiminad says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 22

    Wow nice one

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  27.   LinnyLee says:
    Posted: 14 Jan 22

    So what about what a man should do and not do?

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  28.   Bree197a says:
    Posted: 27 Dec 21

    Thanks

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  29.   hellenz says:
    Posted: 10 Dec 21

    How i wish i can get some one to take me to date never experienced that and i like it So much thank you for the tips Matthew Hussey

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  30.   TMS3 says:
    Posted: 23 Oct 21

    most of this I've already known. from past dates in My life. but here I go again..looking for Ms. Right

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  31.   Ogomgirl says:
    Posted: 24 Jul 21

    Nice post. I like it!

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  32.   Ritz07 says:
    Posted: 06 Jan 21

    Not but I have new friends n date all time

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  33.   Njemwas says:
    Posted: 02 Dec 20

    Good tips thankyou

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  34.   gl34 says:
    Posted: 30 Nov 20

    Thanks for this

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  35.   LocdBeauty11 says:
    Posted: 18 May 20

    Matthew always gives good advice! I've been a subscriber for a few years

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  36.   .aess says:
    Posted: 21 Jan 20

    Good tips thanks

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  37.   Chumchum. says:
    Posted: 20 Dec 19

    Waaauuu........, That is great.

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  38.   Dee-Joye says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 19

    Great tips for the first date! Thanks!

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  39.   Winnyyy says:
    Posted: 24 Aug 19

    Wow... Thanks for the tips especially point 9.

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  40.   Tandir says:
    Posted: 20 Aug 19

    Great tips! Noted

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  41.   Emma1977 says:
    Posted: 19 May 19

    Give her a hug & buy her a drink& I will not have her in a close door meeting

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  42.   CHIRSTIAN75 says:
    Posted: 11 Apr 19

    Leave the past in the past

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  43.   edenlove says:
    Posted: 20 Feb 19

    Point noted...great advice

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  44.   Hlakzi says:
    Posted: 10 Dec 18

    Uum impressive advice

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  45.   Lone_Hoss says:
    Posted: 01 Dec 18

    Thanks for the tips

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  46.   Gertk says:
    Posted: 05 Nov 18

    Great tips

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  47.   Chidochashe says:
    Posted: 13 Aug 18

    Taking notes great advise indeed.

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  48.   Ketral says:
    Posted: 05 Jul 18

    Nice tips

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  49.   Bizawan says:
    Posted: 26 Apr 18

    Great

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  50.   Deisi says:
    Posted: 12 Apr 18

    Hola

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