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Are there lots of crazy folks on the internet?

Posted by Leticia, 15 Aug

From the beginning of time men were the protectors of the young and their women. To quote my favorite super hero movie; Superman... "If you've got me...who's got you"? Who is protecting our guys from the barrage of overly aggressive, slightly imbalanced, "I never knew my daddy" and "all men are dogs" women that hang out on the internet? Are we all easy pray for anyone with a mouse, keyboard and an axe to grind?

No matter what your background, race, nationality or gender when it comes to issues of national security we are all in need of protection. It seems that with the advancement of technology it's become easier for people to assume our identity or in many cases, just mask their own. How do you really know who you are talking to on line? So, you have a web cam, you can see them, how do you know they are in London and not say, oh...next door to you? It seems that my sisters are a lot more cautious with protecting their whereabouts, however, guys, you're not being as careful.

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The experiment...I went on several different dating web sites taking on an ("assumed identity"). In 98% of the cases I was able to get the guys name, city, personal email address and yes, even phone number. Usually this only took me about 2-3 emails to obtain this information. It's my assumption that most guys just feel non-threatened by a lil ‘ole female like me. Well, for the most part I am pretty safe. However, not every woman is. That is if you're even dealing with a real female to begin with.

Guys, I'm not trying to scare you, just make you painfully aware of what dangers are there for you as well. Another case in point... I know someone that subscribed to a free internet dating site after a very bad breakup. Immediately she began to get emails from all kinds of guys of every race and nationality. There was one guy that stood out from the rest. The reason he stood out was because from the first email he was coming on strong and fast. Let's call him Marc. Marc hadn't even seen a picture of her (face), before he gave up his home phone number, place of employment and personal email address. By the third email she told Marc that he needed to slow it down. That he was moving to fast. Needless to say, Marc took this as a brush off and told her to go (fill in the blank) herself.

Maybe it was just that time of the day. Perhaps she was still not quite over that bad breakup and these words triggered some latent memory and it was a breaking point. I don't really know how it happened but this is what happened next. With all the information that she had been given by Marc, it didn't take much to learn his last name, get his address, (he was in a very small town), and proceed to reek chaos in his life. She began with the little things like going to different gay porn websites and posting his picture along with a profile saying that he was looking for well hung and sprung young men. She also included his personal email address and his...you guessed it...home phone number. She signed him up for any and every free internet spam, blog and survey she could find. Including the site dontdatehimgirl.com.

Although she never did anything with his physical home address, she could have. That's scary. At the most she just inconvenienced him with these school girl pranks. Unfortunately, there are some folks out there that take it a lot further and make it a lot more dangerous physically, emotionally and even financially.

The moral of this story is to protect your self at all cost. It's so easy to create a free profile any and every where. If you are truly serious about finding the love of your life, isn't it worth the investment of weeding out the crazy's? The perpetrators? The "I'm just here to waste a little quality time" people. When you become a subscriber you have greater access to a better quality of other subscribers and the opportunity to validate who you're really talking to while maintaining your anonymity. You can email and send instant messages with the satisfaction of knowing that your personal information and details are safe and secure. It's about protecting your time, your investment and yourself. I know that you're worth it. This is Leticia...maybe??!!

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  1.   charlee1 says:
    Posted: 08 Sep 06

    trust your instincts, go with your gut feeling that's what i say. sure, there are lots of "crazys" out there, but you can usually tell who's genuine and who's not. if it all seems a little far fetched, then move on lol! keep safe all, and that's for the girls as well as the guys. there are some good people on here, so don't give up

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  2.   whytb0y says:
    Posted: 08 Sep 06

    i never understood why anybody would go after a person that does not want them ,myself if a woman is not interested so be it , nobody is worth me making myself look foolish and chasing after ,not to mention stalking requires way more effort than i am willing to exert lol. but i think some men are either way to trusting or just very desperate , and unfortunately are easy prey to women and the same for women ,some women make themselves easy targets for men , it's sad that as people we have to be cautious about who we decide to interact with.

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  3.   BABYMEAT says:
    Posted: 07 Sep 06

    I HAVE SO MANY IM STALKERS. THERE IS SOME CRAZY PEOPLE OUT THERE!

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  4.   sandy says:
    Posted: 07 Sep 06

    Unfortunately it's a crazy and scary world that we live in. We must be careful and protect ourselves from the sick people that walk this earth. You can't trust everyone that you come in contact with, you have to keep your guard up at all times. I'd love to think that we live in a society of very loving people BUT WE DO NOT.

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  5.   galf says:
    Posted: 06 Sep 06

    i usually give people the benefit of the doubt. As a result I am very trusting. Still I am cautious about giving out personal information. I just go by my gut feeling. If it seems right then I go for it. I a lot of ways you can get to know more about a person by what they write than what they say. I think people are more will to share things through a letter when they still feel anonymous than in person.

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  6.   Carla says:
    Posted: 06 Sep 06

    The more I am on here the crazier it gets....wow I am just amazed...I like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt but lately..that is almost impossible.........

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  7.   ebonybeautyj says:
    Posted: 05 Sep 06

    Its all about listening to that inner voice of protection! BE CAREFUL!

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  8.   Indigo says:
    Posted: 05 Sep 06

    This article is the exact reason why in theme with another article people stay home and don't go out and form connection with others ...terror, fear (False Evidence Appearing Real), worry... Yes there are crazies out there, Always have been.... That is why you don't give your home phone and name, use a nickname and a cell phone # and a good way to find out if someone is crazy meet them, keep 911 on speed dial though and meet in a very public place leave a message with a friend, this is who I’m meeting the info I know about them.. if I’m not back by such and such time call 911... in my experiences most crazy people don't have enough patients to actually show up on time or integrity to keep the appointment. And if you are savvy enough to use a computer you should be able to tell who is for real. Safety is important yes but paranoia doesn't lead to happiness life requires risk. Calculated planned cautious- Risk :)

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  9.   urmydestiny says:
    Posted: 05 Sep 06

    This is a great article. Everyone needs to be alert. There are so many people out there who use the internet to prey on innocent people. If something just isn't right about a person from the word go, then I suggest you go with your instinct and make a quick exit. Date safely.

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  10.   SoulFlower says:
    Posted: 05 Sep 06

    I don't give out my personal email address until I am sure or think it will go beyound this site or any other.

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  11.   lovlelylala says:
    Posted: 05 Sep 06

    crazy is, as crazy does. I have to admit i have met my fair share of crazy men online, as well as in public. they range from the guy like the one in the article who sent personal inf and body measurements in the first email, to lunatics getting down on one knee after making it to the first date. Lucklily through trial and error i have learned the verbal cues of crazy. Yes verbal cues. everyone has them, those little things they say that sends a small buzzer going off in your head, or makes you wonder. Maybe that should be an article series 20 ways to spot a nut before you agree to coffee. lol. Happy dating

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  12.   fabiana says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 06

    I'M REALLY SURPRISE BECAUSE,WE FELT SO SAFE INSIDE THE HOUSE IN FRONT OF OUR PC WEARING A PIJAMAS EATING A SANDWICH,BUT WE MUST CARE ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHEEPBY INTERNET.MAYBE WE ARE OPENED OUR HEARTS TO A BAD PERSON, AND THEY BECAME OUR CLOSE FRIENDS. AND WE CAN PRETEND BE ALL WE WISHE TO BE . SO PAY ATTENTION NEXT TIME .

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  13.   Kalilah says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 06

    Very good article. I had a little situation similar to this one, and I am a lot more careful now because of it. Be safe everyone!

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  14.   EMBRACEME says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 06

    THIS ARTICLE TOUCHES HOME.. IN SO MANY DIFFERENT WAYS..I HAVE BEEN ONLINE FOR A COUPLE OF YEARS AND TO BE HONEST IT IS HARD TO FIND SOMEONE THAT IS RIGHT IN THE HEAD.. IT SEEMS THAT MEN AND SOME WOMEN (WONT NAME NAMES LOL).. TAKE THIS AS A WAY TO HURT SOME.. I LEARNED THE HARD WAY.. AND LEARNED IF I TELL YOU I LEARNED WHOAAAA... LISTEN MEN AND WOMEN NEVER NEVER NEVER TELL A MAN YOUR NUMBER OR ADDRESS.. YOU WANT TO MEET HIM NEVER MEET HIM AT HOME.. HE WANTS TO TALK .. TALK OVER A CELL PHONE OR CALLING CARD.. THE MOST IMPORTANT PLACE IS HOME YOU MUST FEEL SAFE THERE AT ALL COST.. YOU SEE WITH THE INTERNET YOU CAN BE WHO YOU WANT TO BE ,, AND WHAT IS SAD MOST PEOPLE WOULD RATHER BE SOMEONE ELSE THAN WHO THEY REALLY ARE..I ALWAYS BELIEVE THAT IF YOU DONT LIKE YOURSELF AND WANT TO BE SOMETHING YOU AINT.. THEN BY ALL MEANS THAT SHOULD TELL YOU .. NO ONE IS GONNA LIKE YOUR ASS.. YOU SEE WHEN YOU TALK TO SOMEONE THE FIST TIME YOU AINT MEETING THEM YOU MEETING THEIR REPERSENTIVE LOL.. SO LADIES GENTLEMAN BE CAREFUL.. AND TAKE IT FROM EMBRACE ... SENDING OUT LOVE HOPE AND PEACEEEEEEEEEEE.

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  15.   Ann says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 06

    Both men and women are seeking targets; some married salesmen are looking for a sex partner in every city and boy do they do a good job of selling their lies.

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  16.   BABYMEAT says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 06

    BOY, HAVE A LEARNED MY LESSON. I HAVE ACTUAL INSTANT MESSENGERS STALKERS.

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  17.   some1 says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 06

    i think there are both men and women psychos out there not just on the internet but i have friends that have ran into a bunch on the internet that were crazy! i agree with everyones comments that have been posted. watch ur back and who you give your number to or even your email address to. amen for blocking people and caller id!lol

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  18.   Superdiva says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 06

    its hard to trust and protect your self from guys you fall for and get hurt so deeply and not know who yor talking to I have been there and I know and its the hardest thing to deal with when all you really want is true love and all the rest be careful ladies real careful I know guys need to too .

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  19.   cnoter says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 06

    It sucks when the one thing a woman asks for is trust in everything, and it's the very thing that can destroy you. I know from personal experience.Be wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove.

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  20.   jenn says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 06

    YOU WANT CRAZY...HOW ABOUT HAVING SOMEONE ON YOUR INSTANT MESSENGER THAT WAS FEATURED ON THE FBI'S MOST WANTED LIST FOR SEX CRIMES AGAINST CHILDREN........SCAAAAAAAAAARY...

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  21.   Tony says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 06

    Very true! Good article.

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  22.   iceburger says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 06

    Personally, I do noty think there is anything much one can do with the email contacts. Being open with them is ok.

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  23.   Mystify24 says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 06

    I have to agree, yes the internet has lots of crazy people but not all of us are crazy. :) I have seen people post thier phone numbers in blogs online and have gotten phone numbers emailed to me here when i've never even talked to the guys before, and I always wonder why someone would do that!?. In my opinion...People, especially women need to be more careful! It doesn't matter if you meet them online or out in town .. they are still strangers and could quite possibly be crazy.

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  24.   Natural72 says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 06

    Yes internet dating can lead you down all types of roads to "crazy." I have had guys send me their phone numbers through an instant message and they had never "chatted" with me before then. However, I tend to think that just because I met a guy around town does not mean that he does some "crazy" habits, tendencies, lifestyles, etc going on in his life. With all that being said, I believe that dating today whether online or in person is a gamble.

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  25.   mandie says:
    Posted: 01 Sep 06

    Great Article One that i hope everybody reads.

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  26.   kandi says:
    Posted: 01 Sep 06

    Go with your gut feeling..You know when you feel that person elevator does not go to the top.

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  27.   Fala says:
    Posted: 01 Sep 06

    You just need to use common sense on the internet like you would anywhere else. Don't give away too much and don't take too much for granted.

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  28.   misslady1970 says:
    Posted: 01 Sep 06

    I HAVE TO SAY SOMETHING ELSE, SINCE I READ YOUR ARTICLE, YOU WOULDN'T BELIEVE HOW MANY GUYS ON THIS SITE HAS GIVEN ME THEIR EMAILS, CELL AND HOME PHONE NUMBERS.....IT REALLY AMAZED ME,I'M GLAD I'M NOT ONE OF THEM CRAZY CHICKS, THAT WOULD MESS UP THERE WORLD........BUT I'M STILL VERY MUCH IN SHOCK..

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  29.   nehuskerfan says:
    Posted: 01 Sep 06

    We can never be too safe. Not only do people give way too much personal information out way too fast, think about all the people that post pictures of their children. I love my child dearly and want to show him to the world, but there no way in the world that I am going to put a picture of him for all the perps to salivate over. We not only need to keep ourselves save but our children as well.

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  30.   Cobalt says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 06

    As many have stated... There are a fair share of liars and crazies out there. I am not one to cast stones but at a macro level, I believe most are not of the deceptive, psychotic type... With the exception of a couple that come to mind, it's all good.. You know who you are! LOL

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  31.   romeoluvs says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 06

    That is kinda scary but it seems to be true !

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  32.   coco809 says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 06

    All I can say is be careful and take your time.

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  33.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 06

    Be careful for real. Lots of scammers online. I've had some experiences with this for sure. One I recall was a man posing as a women living in Nigeria. Great article!

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  34.   Ann says:
    Posted: 30 Aug 06

    Yes, there are even men on this site that are cheaters and are such salespersons they think you won't find out. Well, they were wrong, their wives found out too.

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  35.   euroecuboy says:
    Posted: 30 Aug 06

    I would love to have a stalker like I had once in the past

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  36.   sweetest1 says:
    Posted: 30 Aug 06

    Yeah... crazy is the right word for sure... of course I think everyone is a little crazy, just depends on the degree of it!! :-P Anywhoooo... great article, people need to keep their eyes open, male or female!! Don't give out any personal inforamtion and be leary of those that do because more often than not they are lying about it!!!

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  37.   ebonybeautyj says:
    Posted: 30 Aug 06

    One just has to use common sense and be careful!

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  38.   jimmirix says:
    Posted: 30 Aug 06

    Very valuable lesson learnt! I was unfortunately very trustful of people. Time to change!

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  39.   euroecuboy says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 06

    There is no way for you to protect yourself. Public information can contain a lot of information that you probably think should be private. I work for a bank, and guess what, we can have any info on you that we want, and thats not because we have your permission its because we know how and where to get the information. Court documents for example might, but do not always, contain information such as your drivers license number or your social security number, majority of court documents are public info, thus exposing you to identity theft and fraud. Also I can call your tax office and get all different kinds of information about you, and I can get a lot of info from your friends and neighbors...... There is no privacy in this country, just remember that...

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  40.   TrueHarmony says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 06

    This one is hilarious! Yes, it is frightening the amount of "crazies" that you find on the internet, but what is even more frightening is the amount of sadly gulible persons out there with a good heart that are taken advantage of by these horrible individuals. Just isn't fair at all.

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  41.   misslady1970 says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 06

    WELL I BELIEVE THATS IT'S EQUAL....THERE'S SOME CRAZY FOLKS ON HERE.....BUT I STILL BELIEVE WITH ALOT OF THE PEOPLE, I'VE COME ACROSS ON THIS SITE FOR INSTANCE, HAVE BEEN VERY REAL AND SWEET.....

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  42.   Angelia says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 06

    Yes, there are a lot of crazy but also a lot of good. The good people just aren't as noticeable because they are not news worthy...so anything crazy gets the attention as we all want to know the what when why or how when it comes to unuasual, bad, neg etc.

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  43.   ray says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 06

    you know its really really sad that a man just can't open up to women these days because thats the way it should be but its not you have protect yourself at all time ,let me tell after you give them your money and your time the first thing they will say "well i did not twist you arm to give me the money to me and anyways say you gave to as a friend and as a gift"and just because you are really trying to find that special someone to share your life with there is snakes like that looking to slide in and then when you try to talk to them about it then they change there number or they might say if you don't stop calling me and bothering me i will call the police so what can you do? just leave that snake along because sooner or later the snake will get caught but meanwhile she will try to get the next guy and don't let it be you beleive i know it happen to me.........ray

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  44.   Dora says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 06

    We all need to be made aware or reminded of these things.

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  45.   marquez097 says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 06

    It always amazes me how people over look the subtle ways that a woman can take advantage of a man. It may not be sexually but it happens. Lots of good men are burned because of women preying on their kindness for money or gifts. Don't forget that a woman can be just as dangerous as a man. It happens and it will continue to happen just as long as men are not cautious. Also keep in mind...alot of women are genuine. You just have to filter through all the crap to see who is.

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  46.   Pamela says:
    Posted: 28 Aug 06

    I agree with Kim. Men are bigger and stronger and I think women have to be really careful. Some people don't like to take no for an answer.

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  47.   Ann says:
    Posted: 28 Aug 06

    Date safely. Follow all the rules. When and if you feel something is not right, DON'T IGNORE IT!!!

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  48.   Ruben says:
    Posted: 27 Aug 06

    There are wild people on the internet. Alot of people on it pretend to be someone that they aren't. (Just like in the real world). Like an alter ego. Just be yourself.

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  49.   yoby says:
    Posted: 27 Aug 06

    i think if you meet a sick person you will find it out, unles u are even more sick and so there is no chance at all for ANYBODY!!!

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  50.   Sweetheart says:
    Posted: 27 Aug 06

    This is exactly why I give out my information after a long time of chatting

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