Are there lots of crazy folks on the internet?
From the beginning of time men were the protectors of the young and their women. To quote my favorite super hero movie; Superman... "If you've got me...who's got you"? Who is protecting our guys from the barrage of overly aggressive, slightly imbalanced, "I never knew my daddy" and "all men are dogs" women that hang out on the internet? Are we all easy pray for anyone with a mouse, keyboard and an axe to grind?
No matter what your background, race, nationality or gender when it comes to issues of national security we are all in need of protection. It seems that with the advancement of technology it's become easier for people to assume our identity or in many cases, just mask their own. How do you really know who you are talking to on line? So, you have a web cam, you can see them, how do you know they are in London and not say, oh...next door to you? It seems that my sisters are a lot more cautious with protecting their whereabouts, however, guys, you're not being as careful.
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The experiment...I went on several different dating web sites taking on an ("assumed identity"). In 98% of the cases I was able to get the guys name, city, personal email address and yes, even phone number. Usually this only took me about 2-3 emails to obtain this information. It's my assumption that most guys just feel non-threatened by a lil ‘ole female like me. Well, for the most part I am pretty safe. However, not every woman is. That is if you're even dealing with a real female to begin with.
Guys, I'm not trying to scare you, just make you painfully aware of what dangers are there for you as well. Another case in point... I know someone that subscribed to a free internet dating site after a very bad breakup. Immediately she began to get emails from all kinds of guys of every race and nationality. There was one guy that stood out from the rest. The reason he stood out was because from the first email he was coming on strong and fast. Let's call him Marc. Marc hadn't even seen a picture of her (face), before he gave up his home phone number, place of employment and personal email address. By the third email she told Marc that he needed to slow it down. That he was moving to fast. Needless to say, Marc took this as a brush off and told her to go (fill in the blank) herself.
Maybe it was just that time of the day. Perhaps she was still not quite over that bad breakup and these words triggered some latent memory and it was a breaking point. I don't really know how it happened but this is what happened next. With all the information that she had been given by Marc, it didn't take much to learn his last name, get his address, (he was in a very small town), and proceed to reek chaos in his life. She began with the little things like going to different gay porn websites and posting his picture along with a profile saying that he was looking for well hung and sprung young men. She also included his personal email address and his...you guessed it...home phone number. She signed him up for any and every free internet spam, blog and survey she could find. Including the site dontdatehimgirl.com.
Although she never did anything with his physical home address, she could have. That's scary. At the most she just inconvenienced him with these school girl pranks. Unfortunately, there are some folks out there that take it a lot further and make it a lot more dangerous physically, emotionally and even financially.
The moral of this story is to protect your self at all cost. It's so easy to create a free profile any and every where. If you are truly serious about finding the love of your life, isn't it worth the investment of weeding out the crazy's? The perpetrators? The "I'm just here to waste a little quality time" people. When you become a subscriber you have greater access to a better quality of other subscribers and the opportunity to validate who you're really talking to while maintaining your anonymity. You can email and send instant messages with the satisfaction of knowing that your personal information and details are safe and secure. It's about protecting your time, your investment and yourself. I know that you're worth it. This is Leticia...maybe??!!
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Kalilah says:Posted: 04 Sep 06
Very good article. I had a little situation similar to this one, and I am a lot more careful now because of it. Be safe everyone!
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EMBRACEME says:Posted: 04 Sep 06
THIS ARTICLE TOUCHES HOME.. IN SO MANY DIFFERENT WAYS..I HAVE BEEN ONLINE FOR A COUPLE OF YEARS AND TO BE HONEST IT IS HARD TO FIND SOMEONE THAT IS RIGHT IN THE HEAD.. IT SEEMS THAT MEN AND SOME WOMEN (WONT NAME NAMES LOL).. TAKE THIS AS A WAY TO HURT SOME.. I LEARNED THE HARD WAY.. AND LEARNED IF I TELL YOU I LEARNED WHOAAAA... LISTEN MEN AND WOMEN NEVER NEVER NEVER TELL A MAN YOUR NUMBER OR ADDRESS.. YOU WANT TO MEET HIM NEVER MEET HIM AT HOME.. HE WANTS TO TALK .. TALK OVER A CELL PHONE OR CALLING CARD.. THE MOST IMPORTANT PLACE IS HOME YOU MUST FEEL SAFE THERE AT ALL COST.. YOU SEE WITH THE INTERNET YOU CAN BE WHO YOU WANT TO BE ,, AND WHAT IS SAD MOST PEOPLE WOULD RATHER BE SOMEONE ELSE THAN WHO THEY REALLY ARE..I ALWAYS BELIEVE THAT IF YOU DONT LIKE YOURSELF AND WANT TO BE SOMETHING YOU AINT.. THEN BY ALL MEANS THAT SHOULD TELL YOU .. NO ONE IS GONNA LIKE YOUR ASS.. YOU SEE WHEN YOU TALK TO SOMEONE THE FIST TIME YOU AINT MEETING THEM YOU MEETING THEIR REPERSENTIVE LOL.. SO LADIES GENTLEMAN BE CAREFUL.. AND TAKE IT FROM EMBRACE ... SENDING OUT LOVE HOPE AND PEACEEEEEEEEEEE.
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Ann says:Posted: 04 Sep 06
Both men and women are seeking targets; some married salesmen are looking for a sex partner in every city and boy do they do a good job of selling their lies.
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BABYMEAT says:Posted: 04 Sep 06
BOY, HAVE A LEARNED MY LESSON. I HAVE ACTUAL INSTANT MESSENGERS STALKERS.
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some1 says:Posted: 04 Sep 06
i think there are both men and women psychos out there not just on the internet but i have friends that have ran into a bunch on the internet that were crazy! i agree with everyones comments that have been posted. watch ur back and who you give your number to or even your email address to. amen for blocking people and caller id!lol
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Superdiva says:Posted: 03 Sep 06
its hard to trust and protect your self from guys you fall for and get hurt so deeply and not know who yor talking to I have been there and I know and its the hardest thing to deal with when all you really want is true love and all the rest be careful ladies real careful I know guys need to too .
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cnoter says:Posted: 03 Sep 06
It sucks when the one thing a woman asks for is trust in everything, and it's the very thing that can destroy you. I know from personal experience.Be wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove.
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jenn says:Posted: 03 Sep 06
YOU WANT CRAZY...HOW ABOUT HAVING SOMEONE ON YOUR INSTANT MESSENGER THAT WAS FEATURED ON THE FBI'S MOST WANTED LIST FOR SEX CRIMES AGAINST CHILDREN........SCAAAAAAAAAARY...
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iceburger says:Posted: 02 Sep 06
Personally, I do noty think there is anything much one can do with the email contacts. Being open with them is ok.
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Mystify24 says:Posted: 02 Sep 06
I have to agree, yes the internet has lots of crazy people but not all of us are crazy. :) I have seen people post thier phone numbers in blogs online and have gotten phone numbers emailed to me here when i've never even talked to the guys before, and I always wonder why someone would do that!?. In my opinion...People, especially women need to be more careful! It doesn't matter if you meet them online or out in town .. they are still strangers and could quite possibly be crazy.
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Natural72 says:Posted: 02 Sep 06
Yes internet dating can lead you down all types of roads to "crazy." I have had guys send me their phone numbers through an instant message and they had never "chatted" with me before then. However, I tend to think that just because I met a guy around town does not mean that he does some "crazy" habits, tendencies, lifestyles, etc going on in his life. With all that being said, I believe that dating today whether online or in person is a gamble.
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kandi says:Posted: 01 Sep 06
Go with your gut feeling..You know when you feel that person elevator does not go to the top.
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Fala says:Posted: 01 Sep 06
You just need to use common sense on the internet like you would anywhere else. Don't give away too much and don't take too much for granted.
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misslady1970 says:Posted: 01 Sep 06
I HAVE TO SAY SOMETHING ELSE, SINCE I READ YOUR ARTICLE, YOU WOULDN'T BELIEVE HOW MANY GUYS ON THIS SITE HAS GIVEN ME THEIR EMAILS, CELL AND HOME PHONE NUMBERS.....IT REALLY AMAZED ME,I'M GLAD I'M NOT ONE OF THEM CRAZY CHICKS, THAT WOULD MESS UP THERE WORLD........BUT I'M STILL VERY MUCH IN SHOCK..
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nehuskerfan says:Posted: 01 Sep 06
We can never be too safe. Not only do people give way too much personal information out way too fast, think about all the people that post pictures of their children. I love my child dearly and want to show him to the world, but there no way in the world that I am going to put a picture of him for all the perps to salivate over. We not only need to keep ourselves save but our children as well.
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Cobalt says:Posted: 31 Aug 06
As many have stated... There are a fair share of liars and crazies out there. I am not one to cast stones but at a macro level, I believe most are not of the deceptive, psychotic type... With the exception of a couple that come to mind, it's all good.. You know who you are! LOL
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romeoluvs says:Posted: 31 Aug 06
That is kinda scary but it seems to be true !
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coco809 says:Posted: 31 Aug 06
All I can say is be careful and take your time.
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 31 Aug 06
Be careful for real. Lots of scammers online. I've had some experiences with this for sure. One I recall was a man posing as a women living in Nigeria. Great article!
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Ann says:Posted: 30 Aug 06
Yes, there are even men on this site that are cheaters and are such salespersons they think you won't find out. Well, they were wrong, their wives found out too.
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euroecuboy says:Posted: 30 Aug 06
I would love to have a stalker like I had once in the past
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sweetest1 says:Posted: 30 Aug 06
Yeah... crazy is the right word for sure... of course I think everyone is a little crazy, just depends on the degree of it!! :-P Anywhoooo... great article, people need to keep their eyes open, male or female!! Don't give out any personal inforamtion and be leary of those that do because more often than not they are lying about it!!!
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ebonybeautyj says:Posted: 30 Aug 06
One just has to use common sense and be careful!
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jimmirix says:Posted: 30 Aug 06
Very valuable lesson learnt! I was unfortunately very trustful of people. Time to change!
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euroecuboy says:Posted: 29 Aug 06
There is no way for you to protect yourself. Public information can contain a lot of information that you probably think should be private. I work for a bank, and guess what, we can have any info on you that we want, and thats not because we have your permission its because we know how and where to get the information. Court documents for example might, but do not always, contain information such as your drivers license number or your social security number, majority of court documents are public info, thus exposing you to identity theft and fraud. Also I can call your tax office and get all different kinds of information about you, and I can get a lot of info from your friends and neighbors...... There is no privacy in this country, just remember that...
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TrueHarmony says:Posted: 29 Aug 06
This one is hilarious! Yes, it is frightening the amount of "crazies" that you find on the internet, but what is even more frightening is the amount of sadly gulible persons out there with a good heart that are taken advantage of by these horrible individuals. Just isn't fair at all.
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misslady1970 says:Posted: 29 Aug 06
WELL I BELIEVE THATS IT'S EQUAL....THERE'S SOME CRAZY FOLKS ON HERE.....BUT I STILL BELIEVE WITH ALOT OF THE PEOPLE, I'VE COME ACROSS ON THIS SITE FOR INSTANCE, HAVE BEEN VERY REAL AND SWEET.....
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Angelia says:Posted: 29 Aug 06
Yes, there are a lot of crazy but also a lot of good. The good people just aren't as noticeable because they are not news worthy...so anything crazy gets the attention as we all want to know the what when why or how when it comes to unuasual, bad, neg etc.
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ray says:Posted: 29 Aug 06
you know its really really sad that a man just can't open up to women these days because thats the way it should be but its not you have protect yourself at all time ,let me tell after you give them your money and your time the first thing they will say "well i did not twist you arm to give me the money to me and anyways say you gave to as a friend and as a gift"and just because you are really trying to find that special someone to share your life with there is snakes like that looking to slide in and then when you try to talk to them about it then they change there number or they might say if you don't stop calling me and bothering me i will call the police so what can you do? just leave that snake along because sooner or later the snake will get caught but meanwhile she will try to get the next guy and don't let it be you beleive i know it happen to me.........ray
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Dora says:Posted: 29 Aug 06
We all need to be made aware or reminded of these things.
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marquez097 says:Posted: 29 Aug 06
It always amazes me how people over look the subtle ways that a woman can take advantage of a man. It may not be sexually but it happens. Lots of good men are burned because of women preying on their kindness for money or gifts. Don't forget that a woman can be just as dangerous as a man. It happens and it will continue to happen just as long as men are not cautious. Also keep in mind...alot of women are genuine. You just have to filter through all the crap to see who is.
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Pamela says:Posted: 28 Aug 06
I agree with Kim. Men are bigger and stronger and I think women have to be really careful. Some people don't like to take no for an answer.
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Ann says:Posted: 28 Aug 06
Date safely. Follow all the rules. When and if you feel something is not right, DON'T IGNORE IT!!!
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Ruben says:Posted: 27 Aug 06
There are wild people on the internet. Alot of people on it pretend to be someone that they aren't. (Just like in the real world). Like an alter ego. Just be yourself.
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yoby says:Posted: 27 Aug 06
i think if you meet a sick person you will find it out, unles u are even more sick and so there is no chance at all for ANYBODY!!!
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Sweetheart says:Posted: 27 Aug 06
This is exactly why I give out my information after a long time of chatting
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purduegrad says:Posted: 27 Aug 06
i think that people should be open about what they are expecting from this site. It is those who try to hide and deceive that ruin internet dating for everyone else.
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Frank says:Posted: 27 Aug 06
This is so true. I believe in expressing honesty and sincerity In my search for the loved one of my life. When I get a response of, "I love you" or telephone numbers from my first reply, or asking for financial assistance within a few weeks or months it really turns me off. I have been victimized by letting out my telephone number and home address. One particular lady used false credit card numbers with my name and address to try to purchase items with. Luckily my bank had previously given me a new card with a different number. However I did get several inquiries from retail institutions asking me to correct my error on my card number so that they could ship my goods on things that I supposedly had ordered. It took a little coaxing to get the name of who actually ordered the goods and where it was to be shipped to and it was a lady from another country that I had decided not to communicate with any longer. I am still getting mail order catalogs from very prestigious and expensive womens clothing stores that as a straight man would never think of requeststing, unless I was wealthy and married to a wonderful lady of whom I wanted to shower with luxurious gifts. Another lady sounded very serious and claimed to have a career that was valueably needed in my home country. She started by writing some very sensible emails and I had gained some great respect for her. After awhile her mails got short and meaningless. after about a year she suprised me with a copy of a visa to my country and she claimed thatit had only taken about a week to obtain it with the assistance of an uncle. Then she told me that her uncle had given her checks to get here but that she was unable to cash them in her country. the checks were from a reputable institution that could have been cashed anywheres in the world. She wanted to know if I could cash them for her and send the money by certified check to her to get over here to my country. My first thoughts were that those checks could have been counterfit and possibly cahed over here, but bounced shortly after my sending her legal money and then I would have been charged with a debt that I could not afford to repay. This experience even gave me doubt as to the sincerity of ever looking to me for the meaninful relationship that I was searching for. I ended this relationship. Other ladies started out the same way, but later with several having uncles who had millions of dollars stashed awayt that their governments did not know about. Some were supposely retired Generals or disposed political figures and wanted me to deposit their money into my financial institution in my country. They offered a generous commision on the amount that was to be deposited. This brought up another red flag as if I had offered to do so this supposedly partner would have my bank account and personal information to make withdrawels from my account without his or her ever sending me money to deposit. As you know I ended relationships fast with these ladies. I do believe thar some young ladies may be sincere in finding an older gent to settle down with as they have been gilted too many times by the younger men of their country. Yet there are those who prey on the older generation thinking that they are a soft target to improve their finances with no intent ever to form a physical relationship to of whom they ar writing. My guess is that they could be spending long hours in internet cafes writing to many and taking in fortunes. Am now very cautious and see red flags as they come up and decide early whether to keep an internet relationship going or not.
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Carla says:Posted: 27 Aug 06
There is alot of crazy people surfing the internet and specifically on these dating sites...I was concerned when I first joined an internet dating site because of that reason..but I know that I am a good person so I know there must be some good men on these sites as well....just got to weed out the good from the bad ;(
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AsheJoe says:Posted: 27 Aug 06
I agree... excellent and timely post. Another on-line dating scam I find alot is foreigners looking for a ticket to the United States. How many times I've seen some gorgeous, seductive maiden, about 23 years in age, who contact me, (age 51), wanting to link up.
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Loni120 says:Posted: 27 Aug 06
i totally agree with this men can be very aggressive and giving up lots of information right out the gate it worries me as well and also they are so willing to come and meet you face to face very quickly.
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anonymous says:Posted: 27 Aug 06
I'm glad someone finally brought this to everyone's attention. I've had lots of guys online who just flat out give me their number in the first email or 10-15 minutes of chatting online. When I ask them why are they giving me their number so soon they'll say something like "Well I chat better on the phone than online". Or sometimes they want to make sure I'm a woman and not a man and you can't blame them for that. But still a lot of guys are really dumb and don't realize you can find out a lot of info on someone with just a phone number. As a matter of fact I can relate to this story because something very similar to this happened with me. I hope this article will open a few eyes and make more men not so willing to give themselves up so easily to women they barely know.
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Mike says:Posted: 26 Aug 06
I met a girl in a chat room who came on strong at first. She liked it when a guy talk seductively and suggestive to her. She described herself as a Gilmore girl and there was no picture, no phone, no email address, no internet account (she used her best friend's computer at work), and she said that since she was in litigation over a property dispute with her soon-to-be ex husband, she couldn't supply any pictures until the case was over. She was a country girl who drove a combine in Oregon. She was extremely open and honest (so I thought) for a woman in this country. I guess she knew that if she lied about anything, she would not get anywhere with me. So soon she started complaining of dizziness, went to a doctor, who scheduled her for a second visit. She told me she was diagnosed with a brain tumor and scheduled for surgery a week later. She said her best friend would keep me posted. She went in for surgery but never came out. One week later I received an email from her best friend telling me that there were complications during the operation and she didn't make it through. I read it and after the initial shock, concluded that there was something wrong with this situation. No funeral date, no date of viewing of the body, no details at any funeral homes in the small town in which she lived. Everything so vague. Some similarities in the way she and her best friend wrote. Just a 'sorrowful email'. I finally decided to traced the 'deceased's' email address and, lo and behold, it led, not to Oregon, but to Washington State. It was a Comcast account, linking from there to Yahoo. Somewhere in the Seattle area. After checking and rechecking, I fired off a brief email to the dead one, basically letting her know that I was on to her. What happened was this... Evidently she told so many lies (and knew that, as a result, she would get nowhere with me) that the only way out was to write her own obituary, and write herself out of the script. She is either a young girl, or an older lady, perhaps even a guy! That I don't know. I could find out but I don't know if I want to.
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Kim says:Posted: 26 Aug 06
I just found it strange that an article about watching out for people on the internet, you choose to address to men to watch out for crazy women. Sure men do need a warning, but women need it far more. When a man is crazy he can be far more aggressive and dangerous just due to the fact that he is a man and is stronger.
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Haiku says:Posted: 26 Aug 06
I think that I would take it one step further and say that people need to be aware of the photos they choose to show on these websites. The backgrounds can give away a lot of information about the person, where they work, and live. I love that men like to show off their children when they have them but, showing their faces kind of frightens me. You never know when someone wants to exact revenge or ill will and they will do it to you and loves ones too. Just a thought. As for me, I am new to dating on-line and I already see some pretty big mistakes that I have already made. But, in general, being a female I do tend to watch my back!
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tami says:Posted: 26 Aug 06
this is so true and to this very day ..I haveguys emaling me with the first email all their personal information...that to me is a sign of craziness to come
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ray says:Posted: 26 Aug 06
you so right about this article because women these day are looking to take advantage of men all the time and the same way around also too and can happen to you so this a good one to keep in our minds at all times. we do look for but sometimes there are evil people thats always try to do this and they will
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I'M REALLY SURPRISE BECAUSE,WE FELT SO SAFE INSIDE THE HOUSE IN FRONT OF OUR PC WEARING A PIJAMAS EATING A SANDWICH,BUT WE MUST CARE ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHEEPBY INTERNET.MAYBE WE ARE OPENED OUR HEARTS TO A BAD PERSON, AND THEY BECAME OUR CLOSE FRIENDS. AND WE CAN PRETEND BE ALL WE WISHE TO BE . SO PAY ATTENTION NEXT TIME .